(Closed) Oh my racist FIL!!

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1583 posts
Bumble bee

@amoret11:  venting about racism is dangerous here girl! sorry, I hope he doesn’t embarrass yall too much!

Post # 4
1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@amoret11:  To his face!? Jeez that’s cooold blooded. Lol, idk what to say other than that would annoy the crap out me too. Some people…

Post # 5
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Ugh, how do people like that still exist in 2013?! It sounds like you’re good ignoring him though. I would have a problem. 

Post # 6
1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@subtlebee:  The OP hasn’t offended anyone, so I think she’s safe.

@amoret11:  My family had also had an embarrassing incident at a Chinese restaurant. My aunt (who was a little tipsy) kept telling the Chinese waiter to “Speak Korean to her!” while pointing at my mom. He kept saying, “I’m not Korean,” but she just kept shouting, “Speak Korean to her! Why won’t you talk to her?!” My parents were dying and kept trying to shush her, but to no avail. They didn’t invite her out much after that.

Post # 7
734 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@amoret11:  Ugh…. that’s something my Future Father-In-Law would do, however, he wouldn’t be so bold as to make fun of the waiter in front of his face like that.

He’s super racist, but thankfully we don’t talk to him anymore (for other reasons, although the racism stems from the reason we don’t talk to him, ha).

Its really annoying and disrespectful… and just plain embarrassing. I feel for you.

Post # 8
154 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Yikes, thats pretty bad! My SO is Chinese and while my grandma is not racist she says some things that are just a little werid. For the first couple years we were dating she would always make references to the (myth?) that Asians are all lactose intolerant. So when she would see him eating something with cheese in it she would ask how he was eating cheese say something along the lines of “Aren’t you lactose intolerant? All the Chinese people I know are.” For the record, no one in his family is lactose intolerant! 

Post # 9
1124 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Eck, I hate people like that and unfortunately have many in my family. My mom broke us free of that but being raised in a super small town and family all born and raised for generations in that small town (I mean small like they didn’t start paving hardly any roads until the last 10-15 years and still many a dirt road) I unfortunately have KKK members in my family. Needless to say I haven’t seen them by choice EVER. My mom never brought us around them but I spent a lot of time with my Grandma and it’s her brothers and sisters and their children. Gross!

We went to a family reunion a little over 10 years ago. My mom brought her best friend and her best friends husband. The husband is white but looks hispanic (much like my brother) and the ENTIRE reunion the whole family was quiet and shooting horrible glances at him. I hate people like that. It made me really angry. I was a young teen and didn’t notice at the time, also didn’t know the horrible things they did to other people either, I found out when I got home.

If I ever saw them again I would at the very least tell them off, if not punch them in the face. It’s disgusting, I really wish I ran into them just to tell them off. And I’m a completely non confrontational kind of person.

Post # 10
7373 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I don’t think anybody has to “suck it up” when we’re talking about racism. All it takes for evil to prevail is for good people to stay silent. Good for you for calling him on it.

Post # 11
1751 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My Future Father-In-Law is super racist too. My FI’s brother is in a new bi-racial relationship and she also has a son and my Future Father-In-Law has said some VERY disgusting, racist remarks about their race. He’s the type of man that, no matter what, is always right. You cannot say anything to him because he will not listen and talk down to you, also. Ugh. I don’t know how I’m going to deal with having him as my Father-In-Law. My Mother-In-Law, BIL’s, and Fiance are so kind hearted…thank God they didn’t get the rude racist dickhead gene from their dad!

Post # 12
7653 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t really tolerate racism or hate towards other people. We have both Greek and Japanese in our family from marriage, so people who decide to be naive and stupid and just run their mouth to us about different cultures often get an earful from me if they say the wrong thing. I’ve had it happen on a couple of occasions, especially people talking badly about the Japanese.

People need to grow up. It’s sad when their opinion makes them sound stupid when they think they are going to get everyone to agree with them.


Post # 13
1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I know how you feel because my Mother-In-Law and BIL is racist.  Fortunately, it is only two of them on DH’s side.  UGH. 

Post # 14
1399 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@amoret11:  HATE PEOPLE LIKE THAT! Keep putting him in his place!

Waiting for my half sisters to meet my man and make some STUPID racist comment… grrrrr.

Post # 15
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard

ugh. my grandmother used to say things that were considered “acceptable” back in her day, but only in private (not that that makes it ok). well, once when I was 5, I repeated something she said in front of a person who was the ethnicity that was being disrespected.

my parents were MORTIFIED.

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