Post # 1
Well bees, my sincerest apologies if my thread, “wedding trends that make you cringe” was hurtful to you. I mean every word of my original post that I believe there are a million ways to have a beautiful wedding! I think that’s why planning can be so difficult…so many gorgeous things to choose from.
The post came from me finding the irony in the old saying “‘one man’s trash, is another man’s treasure” as related to wedding world. It seems through our posts, that what one bride loves, another bride doesn’t care for. Although I never meant for snarky comments to ensue, I guess it was ignorant of me to not anticipate some. I enjoy the positivity of this site, I have turned to you all at times and recieved wonderful support! Typically, when I come across something I don’t care for, I just don’t post on it. I think most of you ladies do the same. Nonetheless, I am quite the realist and understand that every aspect of my wedding will not make all my guests swoon. I guess I’m more okay with that than others? I think those “love it or hate it” details are what will make our wedding OURS.
I am disappointed to see spin off threads regarding aspects of your wedding that you are now second guessing! Please stop! Your pick up dresses, garter tosses, white shoes, green shoes, matching and mismatched bridesmaids are beautiful. I sure never meant to shatter anyone’s wedding confidence!
Perhaps I will take a weddingbee break! Lord knows I have wasted tooooo much time on my laptop the last few weeks! My key’s are on fire—phewww! Time for Virginia to get back into the real world.
Post # 3
Don’t apologize!! You are allowed to not think that EVERY SINGLE THING SOMEONE ELSE DOES is perfect!! I seriously would not post here if everyone was only allowed to praise everything to the skies….
Post # 4
You meant no harm virginia.. I like your posts and your input. I hope you come back!
Post # 5
I think it was nice of you to apoligize, but I agree with ccranetobe, I don’t think you meant any harm by it.
Post # 7
I totally don’t think you meant any harm by it at all (although i didn’t see it lol!!) to each his or her own I always say and i love each trend there’s really not one that I don’t like lol!!! well maybe cake smashing but sometimes the pictures can be cute so I am not even sure about that one lol!!!
Post # 8
I loved reading it and felt that most understood that its only an opinion…I think most found it humorous and knew that you didn’t mean any harm or mean to start any drama…lifes too short to be upset over stuff like that…who gives a crap if other people dont like what we’ve picked for our weddings…
Post # 9
I thought your post was area eye-opener, and I don’t think you should apologize for other people being hurtful in their comments about the thread. I think everyone is responsible for their own commentary, and you shouldn’t have to predict that other people might respond in hurtful ways when you make a survey that is meant to be fun.
Post # 10
As someone who is admittedly guilty of a couple of those cringe-worthy items..
(I love my turquoise shoes and my buffet dinner!) I laughed my heinie off at your poll, and never for a moment thought you had any mean spirited-ness at all.
Please stay..you make me laugh.
Post # 11
I also like your posts. I didn’t open that thread though because I thought it was about this years trends, and I have my own trends. I don’t care if whoever says it’s out of style or looks trashy or whatever. I hae enough confidence in myself to be able to just do whatever I want; within reason of course (mine and my FI’s). From what I have read of your previous posts and comments, I am positive that you didn’t mean any harm by it, and those that were “snarky” probably would have been that way any way; whether to you or to someone else. People need to keep in mind that most poeple aren’t professional writers and come from many different backgrounds, so sometimes the written word doesn’t come across to the reader the way the writer intended. Many words can be taken more than one way. I do like the way you write though. It comes across to me just fine, but like my writing, it may not to others. That won’t stop me from writing though. I hope you stay and write more.
Post # 12
I really enjoyed your post, and like some of the others, I am going to be guilty of some of those “trends.” I took no offense, and even laughed at the divergence of opinion on some of these trends. Like the other posters have said, us brides need to have enough confidence in our decisions to know we picked these things because we loved them, not because they were “trendy.”
I’m going to stand by my colored shoes and birdcage veil. And keep bringing the good thread topics!
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2010 - Casa Real at Ruby Hill Winery
I didn’t mind the post at all! I’m doing a few of those thing, even though I agree they’re trendy! No offense was taken!
Post # 14
I really liked that post – I think it’s neat to see how the stuff I think is fantastic, others find cringe-worthy. The differences are what make each wedding specific to each couple! I put up my “opposite” post because I think it’s also fascinating to see how the things that some people find cringe-worthy, others think are awesome. It’s two sides of the same coin and I think they’re equally interesting.
Plus, if anyone really thinks that everyone is going to love EVERYTHING about their wedding, they’re delusional. Own your choices – they’re what make you who you are.
Post # 15
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Don’t worry about it! You definitely didn’t mean any harm by it! I’m totally guilty of some of the trends, but it’s fine if others don’t like them! Like a few other people have said, there’s no way that everyone is going to love everything about your wedding!!!
Post # 16
@Virginia…I responded to your post and to one of the spinoffs about trends you love. I personally thought it was all in the spirit of fun and being curious about each other’s views. There is no need to apologize or stop posting on the bee (although you might want to let the keys on your laptop cool down…lol). We are all different people and are entitled to have our opinions. None of us are all sugar and spice and everything nice so sometimes we will disagree…and that’s OK.
I got a good laugh about some of the trends in BOTH polls and I know most of the other posters did the same. There will ALWAYS be someone who is offended by a post. Just keep posting and being who you are….