Post # 1
I have the pleasure of working with a great team at work, there’s 12 of us and everyone is very cordial to each other. I’ve been at the company 8 months and I’ve grown kind of close to 3 of my coworkers. One of them was a big help to me when I first started, one is a big help now, and one is a cubicle buddy. We have lunch together sometimes and IM each other during the day. i decided to invite them to the wedding and I invited another coworker because my cubicle buddy is close with him (shouldn’t have done that!). Now I’m feeling really bad that I really can’t invite the other people (we’re really at guest list capacity), even though they’re really nice to me as well and we chat sometimes at work. I’m worried that if they find out i’ve invited the 4 people, they’ll be hurt I didn’t invite them. I’ve asked the folks I invited not to say anything, but we work in the same office and things have a way of getting out in offices. Anyone have any advice?
Post # 3
No advice but I kind of had the same situation, although I work on a hospital floor and I work with other nurses and patient care technicians and we all work different shifts so there’s a lot of people. I was definitely unable to invite everyone, even all the people who work the night shift with me, so I invited only the co-workers that I talked to the most at work and talked to outside of work.
My job ended up throwing me a shower and I feel awful because I feel like I should have invited all the people who came to my work shower, but I couldn’t afford it. So unfortunuately I have no advice, but I know how you feel. It sucks.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I really wouldn’t worry about it. You are inviting these people because they are your coworkers and your friends.
Post # 5
It’s OK to only invite the people you’re close to. People understand that not everyone can be invited.
Post # 6
@atlbride2013: I know a lot of people are down on B-listing… but if you get enough RSVP “no”s, can you invite the other coworkers?
Post # 7
it’s fine. honestly, doubt they will be crying themselves to sleep becuase they get invited to a wedding of someone they’ve worked with for 8 months.
Post # 8
I think you shouldn’t feel bad. I think you really should only invite those people you would continue to talk to if you no longer worked there.
I was invited to a wedding of a co worker once and i was quite shocked that i was invited. I wasn’t close to her at all. I haven’t spoken/seen her since the wedding.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t feel bad. I only invited 2 co-workers and their spouses, DH didn’t invite any. We decided to only invite colleagues that we socialize with outside the office, and I think that’s perfectly understandable.
Post # 10
This is why we English have the advantage… we invite most of our co-workers to the after party, but nothing else, and we only invite our friends to the whole day!
Obviously, some co-workers come to the whole day and some just come in the evening, but it seems to work out most of the time, regardless!
Post # 11
y thoughts are the same, if you get any declines, then add your other co-workers. They will understand… it is expensive to have a wedding…. and if it arizes, why not invite them to the dance after the meal? Just a thought.
Post # 12
Thanks everyone for your responses! I feel much better about it and about my choice of coworkers that I did invite! At this point, we’re over our anticipated count of 115 by 10 for 125 total, which is manageable. Just hoping that the 144 we invited (90% are overseas or out of state) have declines, but so far we’re getting mostly “i’m so excited to fly across the country to see you!” It’s very flattering and we’re blessed with incredible friends but it’s so hard to trim the guest list!