Post # 1
I was doing laundry this weekend. I always check my FIs pockets before putting them in the washer so nothing ends up ruining the load. Well, I found a Kay’s receipt for jewelry…I don’t even remember exactly what it was (I vaguely remember ruby, diamond, and maybe earrings, but I’m not sure) because I filed it in his mail pile right away.
I was disappointed at my reaction: If I had been recorded, you would have seen me sigh and frown. Am I an ungrateful B—-?
He did this for me because he loves me and wants me to be happy!! So why (besides having PMS) would I be so “let down”? Should I even listen to the part of me that wants to say “I don’t want that kind of jewelry” and “Don’t waste your money on stuff that I’ll feel obligated to wear or that I’ll live in fear of losing or that could be stolen from us”?
This has GOT to be PMS and I should ignore it at once, and continue to stay away from that receipt, and channel all my energy to focus on the love of his efforts and gift, right?
Post # 3
Have you told him how you feel about jewelry? My FH and I have talked about this many times. My rule to him – no jewelry unless you make it. He make beautiful jewelry when he is not working, he even made my E-ring which I love. I feel the same way as you do, I don’t want to feel obligated to wear it and I fear I will loose it.
Although, I do have exceptions and he knows them. If it comes of my list and it comes in a silver box with a maroon bow, then it’s ok. If we get to the point where he will not faint when looking at my registry (they have had mine for YEARS), then it’s ok. I am not expecting that any time soon. I think he goes into shock whenever we walk into the store to check on my wedding ring.
Post # 4
@tksjewelry: Thanks for your input. No one replied for awhile, and then only you did, so I felt like the whole Hive was standing before me shaking their heads in disapproval of my petty ungratefulness, lol!
I ended up having a talk with my stepdaughter about what I like and don’t like and she in turn chatted with her dad when they were on a trip to the mall. In the meantime, I let my PMS subside (which indeed was exaggerting my dramatic response to the situation).
I told him the whole story over our VDay dinner. He said he laughed at his daughter when she was telling him what I had said… he told her, in his sure-of-himself-that he-knows-what-he’s doing kind of way, “Too bad. I already bought it. She’s going to have to love it.” Indeed, I did love it. As it turns out, he got me a gorgeous earring and necklace set that I actually would have picked out for myself. So, I think we are getting to understand each other well!