Post # 1
Months before our guest list was 100% finalized, my bridesmaids and both families asked for a list to do a bridal shower for me. I just realized this morning that in the months since we have removed and added people to make the final list. I contacted my future sister-in-law and the invitations to the shower have already gone out… and include people who are no longer on our wedding guest list.
I just need some confirmation here — if I invite someone to the shower, I definitely have to invite them to the wedding, correct? I feel like it would be blatantly expecting to “shower” us with gifts but so rude to not give them an invitation to the actual wedding.
My only concern is that we ordered only 10 extra invitations and we may go over! AND now all of the effort and teeth pulling to cut down the list may have been pointless!
Post # 3
Oh no! I think you do have to invite them, are they close with anyone on the “a” list? if not you could diy some easy invitations for them.
Post # 4
Yeah, if you’re inviting them to the shower they should be invited to the wedding. You can send different guests different invitations if you don’t have enough of the originals. No one is going to know that they got a different invitation from another guest.. and even if they do, who cares! But sometimes depending on the printer you used you can contact them and order an extra 25 invites (w/ my printer you have to order in quantities of 25 at least). Sorry that happened… what a headache!
Post # 5
Yeah unfortunately you need to invite them now. Just hope they won’t all come!
Post # 6
I gave my hosts a list and then they added people who were not on the list and subsequently not on our guest list for invites 🙁 Some were iffy’s and I went ahead and sent them an invite but there was 1 that I did not send an invite to, I don’t think.
Post # 7
Yes! You have to invite them 🙂 If you didn’t mind you could get inviataions somewhere else just for those “Blist” guests
Post # 8
Thanks for the ideas on getting a “B-List” invite set! Never thought of that 🙂
Post # 9
I think that your concern is more about going over on the number…not the invites, am I correct?
But yes, you should invite them now. I hate that that happened.
Post # 10
@PrncssDva — you are 100% correct. My FI and I have had dozens of painful conversations about who to cut from the list so we could have a more reasonable number. It was really tough to do all that only to find out that we may have to tack all of them right back on! 🙁 I really appreciate everyone’s empathy. That’s exactly what I needed!
Post # 11
oh no! this reminds me of that Friends episode where Phoebe and Rachel plan Monica’s Bridal Shower using her address book and wind up inviting all these people they thought she was close to (i.e. her accountant who she hadn’t used in years). i agree with the other ladies about a b list.