Post # 1
When I was 16 my mother and step dad got engaged, and my mom bought a beautiful dress that (not going to lie) I used to always try on and imagine what it would be like to get married in a pretty dress (yes at 16…I had never been the girl to plan my wedding, and honestly never thought I would get married. Ironic how im engaged 4 years later…)
Well, my mom decided the wedding planning stress was getting her. She called me one day as I was rounding up my future stepbrothers to go to a church bonfire, asking if I could make sure everyone looked decent. She then informed me that I had 15 minutes to get my butt over to the bonfire because her and my step dad were getting married by the pastor in front of everyone at the bonfire (my family is REALLY spontaneous..)
Anyways so there was this beautiful dress sitting in her closet only a few sizes too big for me. Every time I went to try on a dress, I realized it was in a similar style but I never loved any of them like I loved my mom’s dress.
So it seemed only natural to save myself a big chunk of money and wear the dress!
Well, when I was 17, a family friend of ours needed help expanding her wedding portfolio for her expanding photography business. So I got to wear the beautiful dress for a “photoshoot”.
My FI and I were looking through the photographers bridal and wedding portfolio the other night on her website (because she is shooting our wedding!). He knew I was wearing my moms dress and that I had done a shoot in it…but I may have forgotten to mention that *this* was the photographer that did the shoot of me at 17…so he clicks on this picture and goes “hey this looks like a younger you…wait that is…Is THAT the dress?!?””
He loved it, but FI is very old fashioned and kind of bummed out. Hopefully his “selective” memory loss will kick in, kind of like it does when I ask him to do the dishes or take the trash out….
Anyways, any other Bee’s have this happen? What did you do? Should I keep the dress (because I really love it! And I love saying its my moms)
Also by the way, here were the pics he saw of my at 17… and any brides in the DC/MD/VA/PA area…this is an amazing photographer. I recommend her to anyone.
Post # 3
I haven’t had that happen…yet! But we still have a little over a year to go!
I totally think you shold still wear it! You will look completely different on your wedding day than you did when you were 17! I am sure you will have different hair, make up and jewelery. It will give a whole different look!
I love the idea of wearing your mom’s dress! If my mom’s dress was that cute I would definitely be wearing it!
Post # 4
@Meggiemae14: +1I completely agree. If you love it, you should wear it. Even though you FI saw it, it will still look better on your wedding day because you’re wearing it for him, not just a photographer. It will probably also fit you a bit better once you have it altered to your size.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Wow those pix are gorgeous! Yes, my FI accidentally saw pictures of me in the dress when they popped up in the computer (stupid iPhone trying to be helpful). But honestly, like you said, he’s a guy and has already forgotten what it looked like. “Um… It was long?… And white…” So I bet yours will have forgotten by June too.
Post # 6
Yup had it happen. He saw it on the computer before it was being majorly altered. Told me it made me look “wider than I actually am” needless to say tears followed and myself being unhappy with the dress. He offered to buy me a new one but I refused. Got it altered. Regretted the dress ever since until I saw my photos. Turned out pretty good in the end!
Post # 7
@navywifenmoore: PLEASE don’t get another dress, yours is so beautiful. Like several other ladies here, my Fiance saw my dress too. He didn’t want to and it was by mistake, just a photo of me trying it on.
He won’t remember, and I’m sure there will be little things like jewelry, hair and shoes that will completely surprise him the day of along with the dress. :]
Post # 8
Keep this dress!!! It is beautiful, fits you wonderfully, and was your mom’s! Great on so many levels! I hate that he saw it…me and FI are super old-fashioned, too (not even doing a first look) so I TOTALLY get it. But please keep the dress. 🙂
Post # 9
Yah…my FI saw the top half of my dress by accident. I forgot to delete pictures off the camera, and I was showing him puppy pictures. Went back one too far. Oops. He insisted that he hadn’t seen a thing and had no idea what it looked like…but he has a photographic memory, so he knows. But he keeps insisting that he has NO idea.
I’m keeping the dress, and we are both pretending he didn’t see it! Plus, it will look very different on the day of when I’m wearing a veil and nicely done makeup.
PS: Pretty dress and great photographer!
Post # 10
I made the mistake of saving mine to the computer for emailing and what-not…and well forgot to delete them, and he saw them. whoops. o well. im not getting a new dress. he says he loves it. and it will be different onl your wedding day! i say wear it! and you look amazing
Post # 11
no keep your dress! it’s going to be SO different when he sees you all done up on the big day! I showed my FI pics of my dress – I can’t keep a secret! I know it will be so different on the big day.
Post # 12
Keep the dress! It was an accident. Is there a little something-something you could add to it to make it your own and change it up a little so that it seems different on the big day?
Post # 13
He will not remember what it looked like. I promise you, he’ll just remember it completely different…
I showed my hubby my dress before I bought it… not wearing it, just the stock photo. He smiled, said it’s beautiful, then when I got all giddy he was like… it’s a dress… i can’t tell the difference between this one and any other one you showed me. lol.
plus, you’ll be wearing your hair differently, and make-up, and jewelry, and a veil, and a different bouquet… he’ll get over it! this dress looks like it was made for you!
Post # 14
Keep the dress–it is gorgeous! And don’t worry, seeing it on you in person will look totally different from even the best pictures!
And yes, my FI has seen the dress, but he doesn’t know it! When I was scoping out styles and budgetary options, I really wanted to know what he liked, too. I fell in love with the Ann Taylor dress that I eventually bought online, and I sent him a picture of it–basically, I said, “If I bought something like this, would you like it?” At the time, I had NO thought that that might actually be my dress–I really wanted to look in person! But he adored it, I adored it, and it went on sale for an incredible price. Seemed like fate, and I bought it!
Honestly, when he does see me on our wedding day, I VERY much doubt that he’ll realize that he ever saw a picture. Even my FI, who has surprisingly strong opinions about fashion, just has NO memory for details of dress design. 😀