Post # 1
Sorry in advance but I really need to vent and I’m hoping there might be some reassuring advice to be given in this situation
My engagement ring is very small, and every time somebody asks to see it I generally get the “Oh.. that’s.. cute.” response. UGH! I always feel so offended and so does my FI. It wasn’t an expensive ring because my FI and I are both students still, but I told him I didn’t want anything big and flashy anyway. He picked it out on his own, and I love it. It’s unique and although it’s small, it’s the meaning behind it right?
It’s technically a promise ring, and has a small little blue sapphire hidden on the inside of the band to symbolize sincerity.
Are there any other bees with small rings who have gotten this response? and how do you deal with it?
I know I’m probably overreacting, but it just drives me insane!
Here’s the ring.. http://pepl.imageg.net/graphics/product_images/pZALEPEPL1-8766928t400.jpg
Post # 3
Your ring is stunning!! I love love love it. It is such an elegant style.The little saphhire is a sweet, special touch.
My ring is a half carat solitaire with a simple band, and I have experienced the same reaction from people who have larger rings/flashier taste. So I just say proudly, “It’s exactly what I wanted. He did a great job picking it out,” which is true.
Post # 4
@lauramae89: Your ring is gorgeous!!!! Beautiful and elegant. Congrats!!!
Post # 5
This is my ring:
Total diamond weight is .33….diamonds are F, Si and are set in platinum. The picture doesn’t even begin to capture how much they sparkle.
And someone on here called it ‘cute’ when I first posted the picture the other day.
Don’t let the rude people spoil your ring for you..just totally ignore them. They are only displaying their own ignorance.
Post # 6
You cant take it seriously. I had a .55ct princess and everyone called it cute. I upgraded to a 1.02ct princess and someone said ….oh I thought it would have been bigger. Just ignore those ppl and say thank you and walk away
Post # 7
Not trying to be harsh, but it’s the meaning that matters to YOU. For most everybody else, they are just looking at a piece of jewelry, and are judging it as such.
I’m not saying they aren’t being tactless and rude, but you really just have to be secure in your own view of your ring and not let others’ opinions throw you off balance.
And just for the record, I would call your ring very pretty 🙂
Post # 8
@lauramae89: I love your ring. People are just rude and need to learn to not say anything if they don’t like something. I understand people have very different tastes in rings but come on, just don’t say anything then!
I wouldn’t let it bother you to much but I can understand why it would! Hey! atleast your engaged !!
Post # 9
Thank you ladies.. I knew there was bound to be some comforting words.. I was (and probably still am) letting this get to me way more than it should.. I’ll get over it, but it’s just beyond frustrating and I know it hurts my FI’s feelings too because he just keeps saying “some day I’ll be able to afford a nicer one”
I keep telling him I love it just the way it is but he gets frustrated and thinks he needs to have enough money to buy something big and flashy.
Post # 10
I think it’s very classy.
And give people the benefit of the doubt. I don’t think I’ve ever called someone’s e-ring “cute” but I know sometimes I have stupid days and express myself poorly. Maybe just assume that what they meant to say is “Your ring is lovely!” but they’re having a bad vocabulary day, and respond accordingly. 🙂
Post # 11
@lauramae89: Your ring is stunning!!!!
Forget the people that think it needs to be a larger material thing! Some people still beleive in the meaning behind the ring, and if you are happy that should be what really matters most to those people.
Post # 12
I really love your ring! The blue stone on the inside is such a cool touch.
I think if someone says that you should just say, “Thanks. I love how unique it is. You should see the sapphire on the inside!”
It’s not worth getting upset over and it’s better to just brush it off. I know it’s hard, but people are so stupid with their comments. I’ll never understand why anyone would ask to see a ring and say anything other than “That’s beautiful, I’m so happy for you!”
(ps- it really is beautiful and I’M happy for you!!!)
Post # 13
I think it’s lovely.
People are just rude. I would never describe someone’s engagement ring as cute.
Post # 14
Honestly, they aren’t saying “its so small!” or “I thought it would be bigger.” So don’t get so offended. When I looked at the picture of your ring my first thought was “That’s cute.” and it’s not at all about stone size. I think its really a cute idea that you have a ‘hidden sapphire’. Also a diamond isn’ty exactly pretty IMO. I hate diamonds, so if someone is showing me a ring thats all diamond I’m going to say its cute no matter the size, and I think being told it’s cute is much better then being told it’s ugly, or small, or something along those lines.
As for the bees saying that if people don’t like it they shouldn’t say anything, I disagree. What’s worse, responding with it’s cute, which isn’t a negative comment by any means, or just not acknowledging the ring someone is showing you? Common sense people! The person wearing the ring is going to get all upset regardless of what anyone says unless they say “oh my god its gorgeous!”.
My ring has only one diamond with a sapphire on either side, it’s not by any means an inexpensive ring, the total weight of my ring is 1.2 carats in diamonds. I’ve gotten anywhere from “oh wow big” to “That’s different.” It’s a piece of jewelry and everyone has different tastes and expectations, for many people the fact that my ring has 2 sapphires makes it different, for many other people it’s still a very tradtitional ring. Not one of those people are in any way being offensive, they aren’t saying they think its ugly, they are just saying their thoughts.
Post # 15
I think your ring is wonderful!
Post # 16
Like others have said, if someone is so rude to be judgemental about your ring, simply remind them that it’s what YOU wanted. People forget that we all have different tastes and not everyone wants a huge stone weighing down their finger 😉
My ring is very small – the stone is very small. I have no idea what it is, as it’s a very old ring (and looks older fashioned to boot) that used to belong to my Fiancee’s great aunt.
People ask me why I wear it; wouldn’t I want something more modern, something bigger? And I say no. Not only could we never afford a ring on our own, but his entire family has been waiting for the day that he would find someone to wear THIS ring. And I wear it proudly.