Post # 1
I am old, and large, so I did not expect to look like a fairy princess on my big day, and was ok with the dress I bought. But now I am thinking it has a VAST amount of skin between my double chins and my chest! no money for a second dress, so my options are to have sleeves placed on, get a dramatic necklace, or maybe a bolero, Our wedding will be formal, vintage. This is me without the alterations yet, and I have lost some weight, but not the football shoulder look :(. any suggestions, I really want to enjoy our day, and not feel so self conscious! Also the necklace I love on Esty!
Post # 3
I like the idea of a statement necklace!
Post # 4
Can I vote for cap sleeves, a cool necklace AND a drink?!? I, personally, always brefer sleeves/straps, I think that necklace is killer and I think you look great so don’t stress. Just get what will make you feel best.
PS: I love how your skirt hangs from that one gather on the side. Very glamorous.
Post # 5
You’ve got to be kidding – you’re being way too hard on yourself! Trust me, your pic is NOT what I expected to see after reading your description, lol.
You do NOT look like a rootbeer barrel, and I think that dress looks awesome on you! That necklace would suit it perfectly.
If you’re still feeling self-conscious, I think a coloured bolero would look really good. Or maybe you could have alterations add a wispy one-shoulder strap? Congrats on the weight loss, by the way!
Post # 6
Oh my goodness my dear you are neither THAT old or THAT big!!!! I think you look wonderful – but if you feel that you would like a bolero or a shawl then go for it – a Big sparkly type necklace would look amazing too – Just ROCK it – becuase you are a beautiful lady
Post # 7
Oh stop it! I love the cap sleeves idea with your awesome necklace. Also keep in mind, you havent gotten your alterations done, your waist is really going to pop and show once you get that done. It will be awesome. Embrace your body honey, its the only one we get.
Post # 8
I think you look great! But if you are looking for something out of the choices above I think a necklace with some pop to it would compliment your dress very well! Are you planning on wearing crinoline or anything to poof out the bottom of your dress? I think it might help you to feel more proportionate and not so much “hey look at my top”? Good luck! It will all work out!
Post # 9
Juliepants, you are so sweet, it has been hard, I am a street sz 14-16, but the dress is a 22 and freakin me out!
Jengirl, thank you, it is very sliming with all the rouching, an the side uplift was my fav! Maybe because I am still white from the Wisc winter, some sun and tan will help!
I think it is the strapless part that is hard for me to see on me, growing up in the 80’s I never did “tube tops” because I had nothing to hold them up!
Post # 10
yeah i was expecting something very different when i scrolled to your picture! i think you look great! a necklace will definitely help breakthings up if you are worried about it. i am personally not a bolero fan (my guests will just have to deal with my fat arms), but i could see something simple for a bolero fitting nice with the vintabe look.
Post # 11
Can you afford to have the alterations dept. add a subtle sweetheart to the neckline and invest in a killer strapless push up bra? The extra curves would take away from your feeling like there’s a “vast amount of skin” between your chin and the dress.
Post # 12
You look stunning!!!! Even without any accessories!
Post # 13
I don’t think the problem here is your age OR size. In fact, that gown is rather slimming on you. I think the problem you’re seeing here is inadequate support for your “girls”. My advice wouldnt be a delicate cap sleeve, a necklace or anything like that. It’d be to add a halter strap to this dress. This dress, like many strapless dresses, was probably designed for the less-chesty among us. That isn’t you, so it’s not surprising that you need a little more support. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised once you have either a halter strap or some other sort of strap to hold the dress where it was meant to be. It will even help eliminate that “cups runneth over” look that occurs at your sides when your boobs push the dress downward.
Post # 15
I voted for a dramatic necklace, but I also vote for go have a drink and relax! You look stunning! 🙂
Post # 16
Miss Noodles, I was thinking of “dipping” the neckline to a sweetheart a bit, but the dress is pleated on top, and don’t know if it were to work.
Amuse Me Musically, oh what great suggestions! You must have some sewing background! My BM’s are also all over 40, and plus sizes and they picked halter dresses to help keep “the girls in place”. I am giving my work out routine 4 more weeks, then meeting with the seamstress to start alterations, and will take all of your suggestions with me!
The dress was a “rack dress”, and under $300, originally $1,500, so I can afford some alterations on it in the budget.