Post # 1
I just don’t understand my husband sometimes. We upgraded our bed from a queen to a king and bought a new bedframe (same style to match the rest of the furniture) to replace the queen sized one, our queen sized one ended up in our (smaller) guest room. I’ve been itching to finish our guest room and have wanted to change out the black heavy sleigh bed to just a white/cream headboard to give that room a little more space (it would free up 4-5 feet of space!) and lighten up the room (not to mention keep us from having the same furniture in all of our rooms), we could sell the old bed frame for the same or a little more than a new headboard/bedframe would cost to replace it and DH refuses to do it because “the old one isn’t broken” and “why downgrade when the old one works fine”
A friend mentioned they needed a queen size bedframe and I mentioned we might have one, and another friend mentioned that they might want it if the other friend didn’t… I have TWO people who would potentially buy it, basically zero effort and he still won’t do it.
So basically he wants our guest room/office to be squished, mismatched, unfinished and cramped with a bulky black monster in the room, instead of getting rid of something that is no longer of use to us and getting something that would work for the space. So annoying.
What has your SO done recently that you don’t understand/annoys you??
Post # 3
@wandering_gypsy: He puts empty soda cans on the floor next to his side of the bed despite the fact that the trash can now lives directly next to his side to prevent this. UGH
Post # 4
I was in a serious car accident in December and long story short I’ve been staying at my parents’ house ever since (no marriage problems or anything like that, its just closer to where I work and its easier for them to tote me back and forth while my crushed leg heals). I have been going home on the weekends though. Anyway, because of this my DH had to put all of our xmas decorations away on his own. Last weekend I discovered that instead of putting them all away in the bins we normally store them in, he only put some stuff in there and stored everything else in random places all over the house! It is going to be a PITA next year trying to hunt all this crap down. Why? Just, why?
Post # 5
@BluebonnetBride: DH is the same way with his clothes! He throws them AROUND the laundry basket!
@adoc86: Sorry about your accident! But that is really funny about your DH putting away the Christmas stuff, totally something my DH would do!
Post # 6
@BluebonnetBride: My FI does the same thing with the trash. When I got home from work yesterday, I noticed that he had set some grabage on the lid to the trashcan, instead of putting it inside. So frustrating!
Post # 7
@wandering_gypsy: Oh gosh I completely feel your pain, my FI doesn’t see a need to upgrade anything that is “still working”…my recent reply was… “right so we are going to live with a bunch of old cr*p for the rest of our lives even if it looks disgusting and doesn’t go with anything” hahaha poor thing was a bit shocked by that.
Post # 8
@wandering_gypsy: Lol, if I were you, I’d talk to DH again and if he didn’t have a very good reason/sentimental attachment to the bed I would totally just do it while he was at work or whatever. Don’t get me wrong, I dont’ do this to DH a lot, but he can be totally irrational on about some of our “stuff.” But then when I force the issue and he has time to think about it and adjust, he sees that it doesn’t matter. (We live in a shoe box and will for the forseeable future, but he wants to keep a TON of stuff in storage that we don’t need and he has never used in the 6 years I’ve known him…)
My recent thing… We have some tool sets from Ikea. They’re not super nice, but they work and I’m glad we have them. He is apparently physically incapable of putting them back in their holder boxes. Seriously, I spent a long time while he was abroad and I moved us putting the tools back and finding them so they would be together in the right place at the new apartment. I swear, he’s been back 6 weeks and left on a business trip. I went to find the hammer and NONE OF THE TOOLS ARE IN THE BOX! WTH? I can’t find the hammer at all. Again, we live in a shoe box, what on earth did he do with them? I told him I was buying my own tool set and “locking the ever loving shit out of it” and he’s not allowed to touch them. haha.
I’m not even that handy! But sometimes you need tools darn it!
Post # 9
@Mrs.LemonDrop: I talked to him about it more last night as a “can you at least consider it” and he threw his hands up and said sell it do whatever you want, all child like, so I don’t want to just go and sell it now. I do think He’s coming around and I think we’ll sell it eventually. I think I’ll just finish re-doing our bedroom first THEN bring it up. I tried to entice him with saying selling it would give him more room in his office and getting that room finished would let him be able to set his office up how he wants (the guest room is supposed to be an office too)… That didn’t really work. lol
The tool thing would annoy me, that’s kind of like when DH empties the dishwasher, it’s like he magically doesn’t know where anything goes. It’s scary that these guys can find anything at all!
Post # 10
@wandering_gypsy: OMG, mine cant’ figure out dishes either. I moved us in and he said “put things where they’ll have a place and then I’ll learn.” It’s hilarious how off it is sometimes. I just move them back and eventually after getting things out enough hopefully he’ll figure it out.
In our apartment in DC, I kid you not, I had to label the drawers where we kept our dishes, pans, tubberware, etc. He could not grasp what would go together at all. It was soo frustrating even though he didn’t mean to make me mad. He just didn’t really care where it went so he didn’t think about it or didn’t bother to learn. He fixed it once there was a list, but it looked childish.
Post # 11
@wandering_gypsy: If he gave you the okay, then go sell it! When the room looks better he will be forced to admit you were right. And you set the precedent that you handle decorating decisions 🙂
Post # 12
What is it with men putting things NEAR where they go…. we have a tiny trash can and DH will put pig garbage near it…. next to it, under it, on top. I want to yell PUT IT IN THE TRASH CAN. When we buy our forever house, the trash can will be HUGE and if he ever puts trash near it, I will probably throw him in it.
Post # 13
@wandering_gypsy: Mine decided it would be fun to buy cheaper dog food. The result? a gassy, farty, smelly dog that stinks up the whole house with her rancid ass-gas.
Post # 14
This seems to be a thing with a lot of guys. As long as something still functions, who cares if it’s ugly?!
This is why they need us. That kind of mentality just isn’t healthy 🙂
Post # 15
@wandering_gypsy: Where do I begin…
Most recently, I found a dirty spoon on the arm of the couch. He was eating peanut butter off it the night before and just…left…it…there. WHO DOES THAT??
I couldn’t find the can opener the other day so I asked him, “Maybe it’s under your pillow??” LOL
Post # 16
@Mrs.LemonDrop: lol that is awesome! I just reorganized our kitchen, so I get why he can’t figure it out right away now, but the things he can’t find are always the things in the same spot, he just doesn’t look before asking. lol
@KitKatNYC: if he hadn’t had an attitude about it I would have, but I want him to be 100% on board with it. I think once our bedroom is done he’ll be more open to the idea, I can have project ADD so I can understand him wanting me to finish one project before starting another. As for the decorating, when it comes down to it he really has very few opinions and has let me do whatever I want, he just feels that a nice headboard is a downgrade from a full headboard/footboard combo, which it isn’t and I’m not sure why he feels that way. lol
@NonannaS: LOL! I do the cleaning in our house but the only thing I ask DH to do is take out the trash when it’s full, and guess who the one is to always do it? Me. But I refuse to actually take it to the trash can (it’s at the back of our property so it doesn’t need to be “taken out” on trash day), so I put it on our front porch (he would ignore it on the back patio) and he will eventually put it in his truck and DRIVE IT TO WORK (he owns the business) to put it in the garbage there instead of putting it in our own trash!