Oh the woes of waiting. .. without even one single doggone hint of a proposal. :

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Ever had not one single hint of a proposal no evidence and your SO won't budge no matter what?
    Yes and he won't let up no matter what : (10 votes)
    31 %
    Nope I got lucky and he's hinted a few times. : (22 votes)
    69 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    451 posts
    Helper bee

    @katiecat08:  Have you talked about marriage and kids but just no mention of rings or engagement?

    Post # 5
    Member
    1463 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    How long have you two been together?

    Post # 6
    Member
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @katiecat08:  Mine! He referred to engagement as “that hing that might happen some day in the distant future” two HOURS before he proposed!

    Post # 7
    Member
    451 posts
    Helper bee

    @katiecat08:  Any talk of timelines on the marriage thing?  Which kinda extrapolates back to the engagement thing?

    The first time I mentioned the word “timeline” to my BF he blew a gasket!  I’d never heard the term but it was thrown around in every self help book out there about waiting for a proposal so I thought everybody talked about timelines. Once he managed to calm down and screw that blown gasket back on he dithered around about a timeline. I told him “that’s unacceptable”. Oops. Needless to say we don’t use that word anymore…..

    Post # 8
    Member
    397 posts
    Helper bee

    How long have you been waiting for?

    We’ve been together for a bit over 9 years and I have tried EVERYTHING under the sun for him to tell me WHEN!! I know it’s coming *eventually* but it would be nice to know when. When I get angry or sad about it, I tell him I deserve to know, especially since we live together, have a 9 yr relationship and everything is going so well. He just says “Sometime before next summer”  -_-

    It seems time is irrelevant to men…yet everything to women!

    Post # 9
    Member
    2052 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @katiecat08:  I have had NO hints.  I tried to chat about us picking out rings together…and I got this long winded response about how he will be the one asking for my Dad’s hand in marriage, then he will be selecting and buying the ring himself.

    We’ve chatted about practical wedding dates (fall of 2015 or 2016), discussed the drink situation for our wedding (fancy wedding kegs with gift beer mug glasses and wine glasses), the location area for our venue that we want (mountain river wedding).  He told me that I can pick the colors for our wedding, that I can go crazy on Pintrest creating inspiration boards and getting ideas for the wedding, etc, etc, etc.

    BUT NO HINTS AS TO A PROPOSAL!!?!?!?!?!? Yell  <


    my face when I think about it too much haha.

    I just trust that we are talking about it, moving towards it…and it’ll happen when it’s supposed to.  TRUST is the big thing here when the guy won’t talk about it.  

    Post # 10
    Hostess
    7630 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @katiecat08:  I find that really strange. DH and I talked about our future before we got engaged, including when we would want to get married. It’s the biggest decision of your life. You should be an active part of the discussion, not waiting aroud for him to decide.

    Post # 11
    Member
    2125 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Well, my SO has let out a few too many hints. It got to the point where he wanted me to help him plan the proposal. I already know when it will be, (during a long break from school) but I didn’t want every detail. Literally hours ago, I sat him down and told him that a surprise was important to me, and he won’t give me any hints anymore. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    546 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We had drafted the guest list together but never talked about a proposal or time line per se. I also knew I wanted to wear my grandmothers ering so that was taken out of the equation. Basically it was a surprise proposal in that DH didn’t know he was going to propose when he did. He knew I was getting the ring to be sized and when I got it back I planned a little romantic date to give him the ering to do with as he wished and whenever he wished. He dropped to his knee and asked me to marry him right then and there. 🙂 

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