Post # 1
They just never seem to get the hint. It’s been over a year since he dumped her, and my boyfriend’s ex, who has a few screws loose (naturally ex’s are usually crazy..haha) is still texting him, sending him presents, and long sappy letters. We’re both just hoping that she’ll eventually stop after not receiving a response to any of the above, but who knows. I really don’t want to get involved because I never met her and hope I never have to, but this is just getting ridiculous.
What are your horror stories?
Post # 3
My FI’s ex ruined him sexually. It took her a long time to come so she made him hold out. Now it takes him forever to come and I die of boredom as I am waiting for it to happen.
Post # 4
Ugh. Miss Crazy used to call SO whenever she was ill or hurt and wanted sympathy. Like when fell down the stairs & called him to tell him. She never called any other time to say hi or have a friendly chat. It was only when she had a sob story. It used to drive me nuts because she’s just such a lunatic. Luckily she stopped.
Post # 5
@BelleFille: wow i never bothered none of my exs i would be so embaressed to bother someone when there involved with someone else. now ive had my exs bother me and i hate that.
MOVINGE ON!!!! is what i always tell myself when the relationship is done!
Post # 6
@HisNightOwl2014: Yeah, I know. I would NEVER do that. I would just be too embarrassed.
Post # 7
My boyfriends ex is CRAZY. She cheated on him and they broke up…but weeks later (after he and I started dating) she wanted him back, moved less than a mile from my bf, texted him and begged for him back, got mad at him for dating me, etc. Over a year after they broke up, she still wasn’t over him – and she had been dating other people! Of course my bf didn’t want to be mean and never gave her the harsh reality check she needed (which almost brought an end to us, as I was more mad at him than her). In december they had to straighten some stuff out with belongings and she asked him if he was happy and said she hasn’t felt that way about anyone since him…UGH. She finally moved to the city last month…a year and a half later. To this day I loathe her and anything to do with her lol…complete lack of respect for others relationships (oh and we knew each other all through college)
Post # 8
@BelleFille: i feel you bellefille i could not do that i have way too much pride.
if someone doesn’t want to be with me as much as its hurt i run the other way i will not beg for LOVE that should come naturally.
Post # 9
So glad FI never had a real gf….crazeeey girls…whew
Post # 10
I love sharing these stories b/c before DH, I never dated anyone with a crazy ex. His definitely makes up for all of them.
He dated her many years but wanted out. He took a job overseas thinking she’d get the hint. She thought they could make it work. He moved, started casually dating a couple of women. Ex bought a plane ticket to visit even after he told her NO. She visited and he said it was weird and that she probably got the hint but obviously didn’t.
I started dating him…she pursued him from afar. He called her one last time telling her it was over…but didn’t say it was b/c of me. He said she’d try even harder b/c she was able to break up a previous relationship (b/c of a lot of drama) and he stupidly went back to her.
I moved in with him and his brother’s GF’s mom passed away. I picked out flowers to send to the girl and we found out the ex went to the funeral (2 days) and was causing a scene with his parents…wanting to know WHY he broke up with her. She also contacted him b/c she didn’t know why he didn’t add her name to the card.
For the next 6 months, she would send him emails of songs that reminded her of him. Her last email said she missed him…he never responded to any of them. She became BFFs with brother’s (now ex) GF so she could keep tabs on him. He went to visit family for the holidays and the girl mentioned it to the ex-GF. Ex stayed at her house the entire time b/c DH and his brother had to go over to get some of the brother’s things…luckily the girls were out the night they went over there so he didn’t see her.
It’s been a few years but she still has their pics on her myspace….she still uses it rather than FB and says they’re in a relationship. She’s told mutual friends that she’s moving overseas to be with him and they are getting married one day. Luckily, his friends know the truth and just ignore her….and apparently a few years ago, she started randomly telling people she went to HS with that she was actually married to him. I guess she thinks if she says it long enough, it will happen.
He always gets freaked out when we go back to his hometown (twice now) that we’ll run into her and she’ll cause a scene. He has a great job opportunity back there but refuses to take it b/c of her even though he misses his family.
Post # 11
@OneOfTheseDaysAlice: “(naturally ex’s are usually crazy..haha)”
I am assuming that you are someones ex and that most bees are someones ex- are you calling us crazy?
Post # 12
Haha no of course not! What I’m saying is that from everyone I’ve spoken to, there more often than not seems to be an ex that doesn’t get the hint, to the point where they get a little nuts. I’m not saying being someone’s ex automatically makes you crazy.
I mean, I don’t blame her for coming unglued after he broke up with her. I actually feel sorry for her. He’s a wonderful man, and he just didn’t love her back. I’m just glad he finally ended it. Apparently things started out okay in the beginning but he got the feeling early on that she was a little…off. Then, when he got busy with work and school, she started cutting herself for attention. That’s when he knew he had to end it.
She recently sent him a present and he didn’t know if he should tell me about it. I’ve told him that I don’t really want to talk about the past because it’s not really worth talking about if we are happy with each other right now, but when his past becomes present, it needs to be talked about. Everyone, including his mother, told him to just get rid of it and never tell me it happened. I mean, that’s nice that they didn’t want to upset me, but honestly, I’d rather know. He thought it was interesting but he’s not going to keep it. One of his friends has a similar interest so he’s just going to give it to him. I asked him why he didn’t just send it back, and he said it wasn’t worth all the hassle of mailing it back to her, and if he did mail it back to her, it would be like he’s actively participating in this whole mess. I’d rather he just throw it away like he did her letter, but as long as it doesn’t come with him into our new apartment, I guess I don’t care.
I would never actually do this, but I imagined what it would be like if I wrote her a thank you note from the both of us for the present she sent him.
We just wanted to thank you so much for the present you sent us. It’s such a charming housewarming present for our new apartment! You don’t know how much this means to us. In fact, I think it might have even brought us closer together as a couple!
The two of us
Man…if I wasn’t scared to death of her finding me and killing me, I would so send that to her. haha I would seriously pay money to see the expression on her face reading that letter.
Post # 13
OneOfTheseDaysAlice I love it!
My DH ran into his crazy ex a few weeks ago because of me…I wanted cherries and he went to the grocery store and she happened to be there….he said she was still crazy…so that made him feel better…she hadn’t changed and it just reinforced the fact that it was better in the long run that they didn’t end up together….
She never did anything to us personally, she just screwed him up…he was single for many years after they broke up, and I had to pay for all the damage she did to him, he wouldn’t even acknowledge we were boyfriend and girlfriend until we were 6 mths together…man she really was a doozie!
Post # 14
@mija22: I completely understand. The girl he dated before the crazy girl was the one that did the most damage. Apparently, they dated for 5 years, and at the end of it, she cheated on him and ripped his heart out. He thought he was going to marry her, and hadn’t had much dating experience before her. He didn’t realize at the time how badly she treated him until he started dating me and now he appreciates how much I respect him and how well I treat him. She on the other hand refused to introduce him to her parents and constantly told him how she was embarrassed to be seen with him in public. (Nice, huh?) He constantly needs to be reassured that he’s not embarrassing me and thanks me for actually wanting to be with him. All I can say is that I hope I never run into this piece of work. I’m not a violent person, but I’d make sure she’d at least walk funny for the rest of her life! haha
Post # 15
@texasbee: wow, she needs a reality check.
@OneOfTheseDaysAlice: that would be a great thank you note to send, only i would call it an engagement present.
exes are exes for a reason.
Post # 16
@mypinkshoes: that would be a great thank you note to send, only i would call it an engagement present.
HA! You just made my day, sweetheart! hahaha