(Closed) “oh whens the baby due…”

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 4
Member
2006 posts
Buzzing bee

I know it sucks, but I think it is just something you have to live with. Most women nowadays do not get married as young as you have, so when someone does people (sometimes wrongly) assume it is because there is a baby on the way :/

No matter the reason you got married though, it is rude for anybody to say that to you.

Post # 5
Member
11327 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Congrats on your recent wedding! I think you need to understand that people like to talk. Its just the way they are. You are doing something unusual (these days anyways)… getting married very young. And I’m sure its even more rare when you are not pregnant. You’re going to do a lot of things in your life people will raise eyebrows about… so get used to having confidence in your decisions and ignore what everyone else thinks!

Post # 6
Member
2867 posts
Sugar bee

I would just walk away when someone asks or abruptly change the subject. A lot of people assume that if you get married young that maybe there was another reason outside of LOVE to get married.

Post # 7
Member
1645 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

That really stinks. I’d probably end up using some snarky comment after I heard it the first few times. Try to let it roll off you and ignore it.

Post # 9
Member
2006 posts
Buzzing bee

honey, church ladies are the biggest gossipers of them all Wink

Post # 10
Member
2196 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

This happened to my cousin too, She was 17 when she got married and EVERYONE thought she was pregnant. People from her church even sent over baby gifts lol.. it was dumb.

So just remember that… it’s stupid. People are ridiculous,  there’s always something for them to talk about, after you’ve been married a little while it’ll stop. Just have to wait this one out.

I understand how you’d feel offended. But don’t let haters get you down.

Post # 12
Member
5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh man, people do this for everything. My cousin got married at 27, but had a really short engagement. They hadn’t been dating for more than a year, and had a two month engagement – the preggo comments were flying. I’m sure that was annoying for her, too! Gossip happens anytime you do things that differ from the norm. It’s annoying as all hell, and sites like this are great places to vent. 🙂 But it’s something that you get used to!

Post # 13
Member
5389 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I am sorry. People always assume! Just remember that in 9 months they will feel really dumb when you don’t have a baby.

Post # 14
Member
2821 posts
Sugar bee

I was 10 years older than you when I got engaged and at 27 I still heard that from sooooooo many people, though probably not as many as you.  Mine would come not after I said we were engaged but when they figured out our wedding and engagement were only a bit over 4 months apart.  Then they’d ‘put two and two together’ and congratulate me on the baby.  There’s not much you can do but laugh.

Post # 15
Member
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

ditto babyboo and corgi.

Unfortunately, this happens a lot with younger bridees. ust laugh and say, “oh heck no. no babies yet!”. Laughing will make them feel kinda dumb. Why they think it’s ok to say it though, is obviously a sign of having no manners. 

Unfortunately, every age and situation comes with a new set of “fun assumptions” you’ll have to deal with. Instead of getting angry, learn how to diffuse them away from you. That’s all you can do.

Post # 16
Member
2090 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Unfortunately, I would guess that responses like that are going to come with the territory when you get married as young as you did. It doesn’t make them right, or nice things for people to assume/say, but I can see how it would happen. Try not to take them too personally, as I bet they don’t have much to do with you/your relationship personally – lots of people suffer from “open mouth-insert foot” disorder! lol I think a lot of people assume everyone starts trying to a baby right after they get married, which isn’t true either.

I think a good response would be to laugh a bit, and say “oh, the baby isn’t due for another 3 or 4 years” (or however long you plan to wait before TTC).

The topic ‘“oh whens the baby due…”’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors