(Closed) “Oh your girlfriend is so lucky. You’re so nice, sweet, cute whatever”

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Maybe she is just reacting to someone being so kind, but knows he’s completely unattainable?

That’s a tough situation.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

As much as you want to help her, I’d cut ties with her. It does seem like she’s trying to come onto him. It’s not his or your responsibility to help her. If I were you, I’d have FI block her number so she can’t contact him. That’s just the way my crazy mind works… hehe.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

I don’t think you’re being paranoid, but I also think you have nothing to worry about.  Your man is loyal, and a generous, kind soul, (like Mr.G) and yes, people will knowingly and unknowingly take advantage of their good nature.

She is knowingly doing this.  I would have Mr.A nip it in the bud asap!  He hasn’t been encouraging her per se, but to respond to 50 texts a day, even with a one word answer, let’s crazy lady know she WILL get a response…not good 🙁

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

@michkarose:

I just wonder if he ‘nips it in the bud’ and this girl is a friend of his best man, that it could be awkward after?

To the OP: Is this girl invited to your wedding?

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

I think this is ridiculous!  There is no way in Hell that she would be having coffee (or anything else for that matter) with my husband.  Most men are apparently oblivious to the fact that women hit on them.  Mine is attractive, financially secure, has a great career and life is good.  Women see that in a man and want to incenuate themselves into their lives.  My husband is also older than me (10 years) so I am sure you relate quite well to what I am saying.  I think it is time to have a chat with her about boundries and the fact that she is overstepping hers.  Don’t be rude about it, but firmly tell her that her inviting him to have coffee and texting him is extremely inappropriate and makes her look bad.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Umm….no more texting with the crazy girl. She is clearly trying to move in on him…sorry but that’s the way I read the situation!

You and your FI have been incredibly kind and generous for trying to help her but there are lines, and she is crossing one.

Instead of one word replies, he needs to stop replying completely. He’s giving her (unintentionally) attention that she is interpreting as something that it is not.

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

@SoontobeMrsA:

Then I would try and encourage him to put his foot down.

It sounds a little bit like she is replacing one addiction with another, namely your FI, yesh.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@SoontobeMrsA:  Whatever help she received from both you is enough, she does not need to keep commenting and asknig for coffee.   She has something on her mind and to be honest if I were you I’d cut all ties with her now!!

There are some psycho people out there.  OH the stories my family have! 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

100% UNACCEPTABLE.  I am getting mad for you!!!  She needs to back up.  Maybe you should tell her?  Or he can talk to his best man about it?  WOW!  NOt cool

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@SoontobeMrsA: If she relapses, it is 100% her own fault, not your FI’s. She needs to learn how to be a big girl and stand on her own.

 

Post # 15
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Helper bee

@Oneeleven:  Sure it could be, and most likely will be awkward…but her behaviour is not on.  If it were me, I would take awkward over having this girl border line harass/play the “woah is me card” I need comforting with Mr.G card

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

>:| kill, baby, kill.

i mean uhh… ::retracts claws:: i’d probably see if FH would cut ties with her too like PP suggested.

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