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I'm not a mommy yet, so take my opinion with a grain of salt, but it sounds as though she's gotten used to a going to sleep ruitine with you. It may make her more comfortable with the transition from you taking care of bedtime to your husband taking care of bedtime if for a while you both do it together. This might alter the current ruitine and allow her to make the association that daddy = bedtime just as much as mommy does.
We struggled with something similar when I'd want to go to the gym or to a meeting at night. Baby only ate every 3-4 hours and napped a lot in between. Should have worked out great... BUT WT would scream the whole time I was gone and not nap. Of course food would make him happy - but he wasn't really hungry... just wouldn't nap for dad.
We started having Dad bet the one that got him up in the morning and changed his diaper before I fed him. (Middle of the night I did - but morning Dad helped) We also had Dad do all the bath times. This little change helped enough and increase bonding to where he was happy with dad even when mom wasn't around.
How old is your daughter now? Are you nursing? Even now that WT is almost 15 months old I'd say 75% of the time he wakes up at night he wants mom and to be nursed back to sleep - but the other 25% of the time Dad can go in there and sooth him to sleep. I accept Mommy will always be wanted a little more until were completely done with nursing.
Also do you follow the same routine every night at bedtime? One that Dad can also follow? That may help the transition. (We don't do this - but i know it would probably help!)
Good luck!
I dont have a baby yet either, but I think you should just leave him with her in the room and even if she cries a little, she will adjust to his style as well. If you always come to the rescue then she will always cry for you because she is used to the way you put her to sleep.
We had this for a short bit with DS. What we did is- for a while we would do the bedtime routine together- bath, jammies, chat, feeding. After a while I started coming up later and later in the routine, and now DH does everything and I just come for the last feeding. It has worked out really well and baby rugulach loves bath time with Daddy now.
DD only wants mommy at bedtime, too. I think it's because, at certain time in the year, my husband works long hours and isn't often home for our bedtime routine. When Addie was Rose's age, we just went with it so that there was consistency in her routine. If we went out at night, we just left the house after she was already in bed and asleep for the night.
Now that DD is a little older, we discovered she still didn't want daddy to rock her to sleep. So we started working with her on falling asleep by herself. My husband did all the rest of the routine with us (bath, lotion, bedtime story), but I would go rock her to sleep by myself at the end. I slowly limited how long I was rocking her each night, until she started going straight into her crib after her bedtime story and putting herself to sleep. Now, my husband can do the whole routine by himself, and Addie is fine without me. For us, though, it took until she had mastered putting herself to bed before we could switch away from mommy putting her to sleep every night.
Thanks for all of you advice! I haven't had time to respond but I did read your posts. We always do get her ready for bed together but we end up seperated for feeding time. The past couple of nights we tried doing it all together and so far so good. First I fed her and hubby stayed in the room with me, and last night he fed her. She started off screaming, but once she heard my voice she stopped and he was able to finish and get her to sleep! It was awesome! Hopefully soon he'll be able to do it without me in the room at all.
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I'm a SAHM. So from the beginning, I thought it would be a good idea if my husband did bedtime. I had in my mind a nice, peaceful bonding time for them, where he would rock her to sleep, look at her cuteness, it would be great.
It wasn't.
She screamed. And screamed. And screamed. And the second he handed her to me she was fine. I thought oh, she must have worn herself out. Until I started bed time and no, she didn't scream. She loves him during the day. He feeds her then and she's fine. They play, she's smiles, she giggles, everything's good. He spends a good amount of time with her after work and on weekends. He gets home from work pretty early, so it's not like she doesn't know him.
It's just at bed time, she wants her mommy, and nobody else. I get it, she's used to me all day long, I'm comforting. I just worry b/c I get migraines so there will be a day that she can't have me. Or there might be another emergency. And we can't have a date night where we don't get back before her bed time. Any other moms go through this or have some advice?