- 3 years ago
- Wedding: December 2017
So I don’t know how to link past posts in my current post but here’s a long story short…ex-fi and I split in April because he “cared about me but didn’t know if he loved me enough to spend the rest of my life with me” and then later I found out that he cheated on me. Blah blah blah. Months later and I’m doing fabulous – for real!!
I decided to make a profile last week on the same dating website ex-fi and I met on. I didn’t know what I would find or how long it would take to find someone or whatever. I wasn’t really expecting much to come from it, but I’m ready to get back out there. I just don’t go out to bars, nor do I want to meet someone in a bar because I dated an alcoholic and I have some alcoholics in my family. I have done the whole friends-set up thing and then I feel like I’m pressured (even if it is a totally laid back thing and whatnot)…and then I feel bad when it doesn’t work out.
Anyways, so I made this profile and instantly started getting messages (most of which I didn’t respond to or I said I wasn’t interested, etc.). I was also looking at profiles at the same time and decided to just go out on a whim and message one guy who seemed to have quite a bit in common with me, stressed how important friends and family are, and who appeared to have a steady job. He messaged me back and we messeged back and forth for a little over a week. We have sooooooo much more in common than I ever thought I would with someone, even he has stated this! I was upfront and honest with him when he asked if I had my own place and about my last relationship, because I wanted to be open with him. He knows that I was engaged and the shortened version of why it ended…he also knows that I do not love him anymore but that since he owes me money I still have to keep in contact with him. He was really understanding and it did not scare him away at all and he appreciated my honesty – in fact, his sister was in the same situation and is now married and has two children (gives me hope too!!!). He’s attractive, my height, and seems like a respectful guy who loves being around his family and close friends. Many many more details but it seems we have hit it off quite well. We started texting yesterday and he’s going to call me this weekend. He also asked if I would want to go to dinner soon and we decided on Monday evening 🙂
I am giddy, smiling at texts and feeling all cutesy when I listen to adorable songs about love and relationships again. So excited for Monday, but quite nervous too (although I get nervous at any change in my life)!!
Is it wrong that it has only been almost 3 months and I’m ready to move on? I’ve spent a lot of time soul-searching and re-learning to love myself again. I’ve spent a lot of time alone, a lot of time with friends and family as well as a lot of time working (to pay off the debt I got into with the ex-fi). I’m moved on, and the situation that happened made it a lot easier on me. I had a rough time at first but then I found out about the cheating thing and I soared to the skies and kept on moving forward.