(Closed) ok Bee's am i over reacting?????

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: ????????
    your being silly and reading in to it too much. : (175 votes)
    79 %
    its one sided interested but i would still make him delete her. : (47 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I understand why it would be irritating but he obviously isn’t playing into it. Hell, he hadn’t even read the message and it’s been there a month! I wouldn’t worry too much about it, as long as he doesn’t respond. If she starts harassing him or something then that’s different, but just from that one message, I think it’s not that big of a deal. She may be out of line, but whatever, that’s her problem, don’t let it interfere with your relationship because obviously your FI isn’t.

    Post # 4
    11753 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    slightly irritating when things like that happen, but nothing to worry about it. she acknowledged he was taken, I don’t think her intent is to homewreck.  Just delete it and move along. 

    Post # 5
    4441 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    That was a totally unnecessary message and just makes that girl look like an idiot.

    Kudos to your FI for not even bothering to read a message from a girl he doesn’t remember.  I’d be annoyed but not anything to worry about.

    Post # 6
    5968 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    Pssshhhhhttt!  That message is weird…and kind of off-putting, and since he didnt respond, I don’t really see how being upset accomplishes anything, he can’t control who messages him…only how he replies.

    Post # 7
    818 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I would just let it go. The girl looks desperate.

    Post # 8
    6025 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2017

    @HisNightOwl2014:  definitely irritating since she chose to message him privately and say congratulations rather than post it on his wall or something. That to me says it wasn’t just a congrats post but meant in some way that goes a bit deeper. Even so, I wouldn’t make a huge issue out of it since your guy (the one that matters in this situation) didn’t seem to give a hoot that she messaged, he didn’t even seem to recognize who it would be. And it was unread. he should simply say “thanks” or nothing at all and move on.

    Post # 9
    3755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    My FI used to get random emails from old friends/gfs all the time. He would respectfully tell them that he’s in a relationship and not interested in chatting. It finally stopped happening but it drove me nuts for a while!! Just be secure in your man, he obviously isn’t doing anything suspicious! 

    Post # 10
    8697 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    He hadn’t even read the message or responded so nothing to worry about. I’m more worried about the fact that you go on his FB and check his messages….Do you not trust him? 

    Post # 11
    1030 posts
    Bumble bee

    i have no idea why this is even an issue??

    Post # 14
    1475 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @mchitt329:  +1


    I agree, the 1 month old, UN-read message makes her look like an idiot

    Post # 15
    553 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I wanted to vote on your poll but I don’t think I’d make him delete her…but yea, she was definitely being inappapropriate. But oh well, just ignore it and if she carries on then call her out on it.

    Post # 16
    557 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I really don’t get what she did wrong honestly. She called him “friend” (not lover) and said she’s happy for you both. I wouldn’t be offended at all by that.

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