- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I grew up with two girls I’ve known since grade school, 20yrs now. Names are C and J. C and I were closer and best friends. We all don’t keep in touch as frequently as we did, but it’s just one of those friendships that starts where we left off. C has 3 kids under the age of 12. A few years ago she was cheating on her husband and left her family for this guy. That relationship didn’t last long, but she didn’t go back to her family. Boys live with their dad in another state and she hasn’t seen them since. She also lived in another state from us, but moved back about 6 months ago.
J is happily married with two kids And I’m happily engaged. J and I are a little disappointed and can’t understand how she can just let her kids go and not fight for them or see them. But it’s her business and all we can do is be there for her and be her friend. In the meanwhile, C is partying, had a bf back home, but now has a new bf here. She’s living with no worries in her life, like she’s not even a mother. She’s living her early 20’s years again. On her FB page, you wouldn’t even think she had kids. It’s just pics of herself and bf.
Ok, so that’s all fine. It’s her life, her decision. I’ve always been there for her and told her exactly how I felt about her situations. She would even use me as her excuse to go cheat before, without me knowing. Which she was missing for a week, not even I knew where she was and I had her FI, MIL, her mother, everyone calling me because they thought she was with me. I stopped talking to her after that, but years passed and we made up.
She was my MOH for my wedding. She was excited, happy, planning… The day of My engagement party, she was going to be at her families house an hour away. So I told her, I’ll pick her up, get ready at my place and I’ll take her back over there in the morning. The day of, I can’t get a hold of her. I see that she’s with her aunt 15 mins away from where I live on FB. So ok, she’s closer, maybe she’ll call me to pick her up since she near by. This is at 3pm. My engagement party was going to start at 9pm. I’m calling, texting her… Nothing. 8pm comes around and she txt me, she left her phone at home and she’s too drunk to go. An hour before my party and she’s and hour away when I said I was going to pick her up. After that day, she never called me to apologize or anything. It’s been 5 months now I never heard from her.
She ended up telling J, I don’t know why she’s mad at me and I don’t care. I’m having fun with my family and that’s all that matters. So I guess our 20 year friendship didnt mean anything to her and all that I have done for her. That’s fine. I dropped her as my MOH and my friend. I’m tired of holding on to her as a friend.
Finally the situation. Sorry it’s so long, I hope I’m as clear as possible. Lol. It’s J’s 30th bday this Saturday. We’re having a surprise bday with a limo, dinner and drinks. I agreed to go, which I’m responsible for paying part of the limo. But now C was invited. As expected, I guess I knew but was hoping she wasn’t going or going to be invited. I won’t cause drama, I can be cordial and be an adult. But I really don’t want to be in that awkward, uncomfortable situation with her. I don’t want to see her, talk to her or be around her. And I don’t want to be childish and say I’m not going because she is. I know that’s just dumb. But just in case I wasn’t to go, I would still pay my half of the limo regardless. I honor my word. I don’t hate her or anything, I just don’t care for her anymore. I had too many loved ones fuck me over too many times, including me mom, I cut her out too, that I’m emotionless To wanting them in my life.
Now, what would you do in my situation? Was it wrong what she did to me? Was I wrong and should I let it go and be friends again?