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Ok bees, help me decide - wear it or sell it?

posted 1 year ago in Dress
  • poll: Should I wear the bolero or sell it?
    Wear it - you look great! : (27 votes)
    23 %
    Meh, it's not doing much for you - see if you can sell it. : (89 votes)
    77 %
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    SanDiegoAli    September 18, 2010   San Diego

    I bought a beautiful bolero from Etsy seller maryandangelika but in the past few weeks I've really been doubting whether or not it "goes" with my dress.  So I've been toying with the idea of selling it.

    What do you think?  Please give me honest feedback!!

    Excuse the fact that I have no make up on and that my dress is all wrinkly.  Oh and I won't be wearing my veil that way either.

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    Amaryllis    July 2, 2011  

    I would wear it for part of the reception and some of the pictures. I think it's fun, but I prefer a simpler, more classic look. The 50/50 would be a good compromise. Great color, too, and you look fabulous in your dress!

     
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    littlemissmoo    July 18, 2010   London, UK

    I really like it. I think it's a lovely accompaniment to your dress. If you're unsure though why don't you wait until the actual wedding day and decide then? You can always sell it later.

     
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    baldor1    May 7, 2012   Southern California

    Were you looking to wear it to the ceremony and reception, or just the reception? Is the wedding outdoors? I think it would look fun for the reception and might help keep you warm if your wedding is outdoors and goes into the evening. But for the ceremony, I prefer you without it.

     
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    Miss Chapstick    September 2009  

    I have to say that being totally honest, I'm not a fan. It's definitely not you at all. It's the bolero. It's too much with the dress, I think because of the color. I would try to sell it.

    If it makes you feel any better, I made two or three purchases for the wedding where afterwards I thought to myself, "what was I thinking!?" I realized this before the wedding, and was happy I did some self-editing, even if I was out a few bucks.

     
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    7SEVENJ9    September 25, 2010  

    I bought and returned 20 pairs of shoes before I found the right ones - keep looking and see if something else strikes your fancy - you can always sell it later!

     
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    vistagirl    march , 2010   Oregon

    I like it- my bm had boleros on and I sort of wished I had had one too, I agree wait and see if you like it on  the day and sell it after if you don't wear it (or sell it used if you do)

     
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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    IDK, I'm kind of traditional and I feel like your wedding day is the 1 day you get to dress up as the bride, so I tend to prefer you without the bolero.  I think it's pretty, but it doesn't go with your wedding gown. You can always wear it to the rehearsal dinner with a white cocktail dress, that would be so fabulous!

     
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    deathbydesign    February 18, 2012   Lives in Ontario, married in Quebec

    Personally, I love it!

     
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    JenniMichele    May 22, 2011   Huntington Beach, CA

    I love the color, but I don't think it looks right from the back. It covers up part of the back of the dress, so I prefer it without. Your dress is so elegant and beautiful, and I don't think the bolero goes.

     
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    Scottielass    July 3, 2011   Westerville, OH

    I really like the bolero on its own, but it does seem out place with all white.  You might consider adding a large blue brooch offset at the waist to tie it together.

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    oracle    October 23, 2010   Los Angeles

    I think it's a very pretty bolero and you should keep it - but for a different occasion.  It seems to dress-down the outfit, IMO.  I think because it's such a bold color - not really for the design, etc.

     
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    gabrielleelise1981    August 28, 2010   Portland, Maine

    I think you should keep the bolero to wear it with other dresses. I can really see it dressing up a plainer cocktail dress nicely!

     
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    PaperCrane       Married!

    I think it kind of overpowers the dress... i like the suggestion about adding a broach or something but then you really are cahnging the whole look of the dress. I'd keep it for another time.

     
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    caszos    June 2010   Florida

    I agree it seems to take away from the dress since its such a bold color.  

     
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    blondeeebuckeye    February 2011   Austin, TX

    do you have a photo of you in your dress WITHOUT the bolero?

     
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    hermitcrab    June 2010   NYC

    I think it looks great together actually - and what a cute bolero!

     
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    To be honest, I don't really like it with your dress.  I think it distracts all attention from it.  I love the color tho.  :)

     
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    crayfish    September 11, 2010   Berkeley, CA

    I think there's something about the glaring contrast of all white with a super bright blue that is making it seem off to me. I'd sell it, I think.

     
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    Treasure43    September 18, 2010  

    I agree with some of the others that it looks kinda off what with the bright blue and the white. I'd sell it, but if you love it, wear it!

     
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    may2011bride    May 14, 2011   Gainesville, FL

    It is really cute, but seems out of place.  Try a matching blue sash or something to tie it together more.

     
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    vintage2010    April 10, 2010  

    I am not a fan of boleros because I think they take away from the initial design of the dress, however I do understand that some girls wear them to be acceptable for their church ceremony or because of the weather, etc.  I think the bolero you bought is pretty but the color I think doesn't work.

     
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    tintine1    October 2, 2010   Las Vegas

    I'm not a fan of the color of the bolero but it is cute.

     
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    Shoppingdixie    September 17, 2010   New York

    i think it takes away from your dress.  I say forget it.

     
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    mmcd1523    September 3, 2011  

    On its own I think its super cute, but its such a big contrast from the dress I'm not sure it goes.  I feel like if the dress had a sash in that color the bolero would totally work.

     
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    MsInterpret    March 19, 2011   lesbian couple, married in Iowa, live in san antonio TX

    I have to say I don't care for it either.  Somehow it makes your overall outfit look less "bridal".  Maybe if you want color it would be good in a pale ice blue?  But otherwise I say no.  My honest opinion.

     
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    abbyful    June 7, 2011   Kansas City

    I agree with the people that said it's overpowering. In those pictures, all I see is the bolero. I don't see your face or your dress at all.

     
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    amariem25    October 2009  

    I think the blue is just too much.  If you had the same bolero in white it would look better.  So I voted for "sell it".  Otherwise just wear it in a couple pictures.

     
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    Twista    October 2, 2010   Roanoke, VA

    It lays funny and cuts off right at your tattoo, which seems  a little awkward for me.  I think it takes away from the back of your dress, so I voted to sell it.

     
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    bells    June 26, 2011  

    i think it covers the best part of the dress which is the top of the back..  i do like boleros but this one is too much and not flattering the dress.. 

     
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    mrstilly    May 15, 2010   Ithaca, NY

    It's cute and I would wear it for part of the day. I prefer very simple lines and classic flowy look. But I think it does go with your dress and could really add some flair.

     
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    maureen9004    August 2008  

    It brings out your eyes- I would do as other poster suggested and wear it for some photos and part of the reception.

     
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    Georgia Bee    October 9, 2010   Atlanta

    Forgive my directness (I just had 3 beers on an empty stomach).  If you like the bolero, wear it to your rehearsal dinner.  This does nothing for your dress and makes your beautiful figure look awkward.  Skip it.

     
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    eileen marie    6/27/09   Chicago

    Beatiful bolero -your something blue no doubt.  But to be honest, as you asked, I don't love it with the dress.  As some others said, I think it's the stark contrast.  Wear it to the reception or for pics or to the reh. dinner.  It DOES cover the beautiful corset back of your dress.

    @Georgia Bee: LMAO!!  3 beers on an empty stomach!

     
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    tinylittlebird    June 24, 2011   Indiana

    While I do think it's a cute bolero, it just doesn't do it for me with your dress. The puff sleeves make your shoulders look wider, and your dress is so pretty on it's own that even if it didn't I would still probably suggest that you not wear it during the wedding. 

    If you still feel that you want to wear it, I would wear it to the reception only. Either way, you could still sell it after the wedding. 

     

     

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