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I know its not traditional to have your fiance there with you to try on wedding dresses much less pick one out to buy. But I did because im not the type that can hide something that im so excited about or buy something that is meant for him to think I look totally gorgeous in unless he sees it 1st. So I took him with me and I found my dress and he was the one that picked it out and we both totally loved it. So I was just wondering if there was anyone else out there that might have did the same.? And does anynoe think you shouldn't break tradition and why? And this is the dress we picked what do you think do you like it or not?
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I don't think that it is wrong for him to see it. But I am not letting him see it because I want to surprise him.
Your dress is beautiful!
Well, I didn't go to try on dresses, so I can't really comment on that!
I thought I was going to keep it from him, but I did end showing him a picture. I don't think I want him to see me in it until the first look, but that's probably the only thing I'm being traditional on - I don't believe in bad luck, I just think it'll make that moment more special for us personally.
I didnt take my FI with me but I do not see anything wrong with it at all. I mean when you think about your dress you obviously think about whether you like it or not but then usually the second thing that pops into your head is will the FI like it. I say go for it that way you know whether or not he likes it. If you want to throw him for a curve then try on several dresses, get his opinion on each of them and just dont tell him which one you chose to order
I wouldn't have minded if he came dress shopping with me or if he saw my dress before the wedding, but he didn't want to see the dress. He knew it was a Pronovias gown, and that it was fit-and-flare silhouette, and that it was originally a halter-top but I altered it into a tank-top, and he knew it was light ivory/off-white in color, but he was very insistent on not actually seeing the dress until our first look right before the ceremony. Since it was important to him to not see the dress until the wedding day, I didn't show it to him. But if he had wanted to see it, I would have shown it to him.
We'll he isnt going to she me in it when i have my makeup and hair done until i walk down the aisle so i guess im still kinda keeping tradition lol.
When my best friend got married this past year, her FI had already seen her in the dress...it was myself, her, and her FI picking it out! It was actually fun to have a guy's perspective, and I'm pretty sure he had more fun than we did :-)
Personally I'm not letting MY FI see my dress, but it's all up to you! (Plus, it's fun driving him absolutely nuts because he doesn't have any control over what I'm wearing.)
I was SO tempted to bring FI with me while I tried on dresses after showing him pictures of some of my top contenders. But then I realized that I wanted the first time he sees me in a wedding dress to be when I walk down the aisle. It seems like it would be such a magical, memorable moment. I don't think there's anything WRONG with FI seeing the dress before the wedding, it's just not what I wanted for us. When I imagine myself looking into his eyes as I walk down the aisle, and him looking at me all radiant and bridal in my magnificent dress, I just feel really moved, and I want to preserve that. I didn't mind showing him the pictures, at all. I was glad to have his input that much, and was thrilled that he liked all the dresses I did. Further, I think showing him my dress helped articulate my dreams for our wedding in general.
Your dress is very elegant! I am not usually a fan of that much beading, but I think it's done very tastefully on your dress!
Thanks so much. I searched forever to find a photo of my dress after i got home from picking it out this site is the only one i could find it on then after almost going threw every dress on maggie sotteros site i had finally found it on there
For me it's not so much about tradition as just wanting to surprise him with how pretty it will look.
My fiance didn't come with me, but only because he hates shopping. I showed him a bunch of pics online beforehand, though.
@elusivephoto finally someone is taking there fi with them i felt like a odd ball for a second lol
This was my front runner, but then I fell in love with a photo and got a different dress. It's a really flattering dress - Congrats :)
My dress was recently worn on that TLC show Four Weddings - - I DRV'd it and then watched it and FH was in the room, he ended up watching it with me and I didn't peep a word about anything. In the end the gal that was wearing my dress won...I kept my mouth shut! Sooooo my FH has seen my dress however he has NO clue its my dress and I did have a design change made, mine will have a sweetheart neckline, haahaahaa
FI gets bored shopping! I also want him to be really impressed on our wedding day and I just don't think he'd appreciate the dress in a shop, even if I am wearing it. If he had a better eye for fashion and more patience for shopping I might have taken him.
It was really important to us that we didn't break tradition on this one :)
but I can see both points of view here
Fi has picked me up or dropped me off a few times, but I defn want my dress to be a surprise to him. He has never seen me in a wedding dress.
I took my FI to look at wedding dresses with me at 1 of the salons I went to. I tried on a bunch of different styles of dresses because I wanted to get an idea of what styles he liked.
I think it is up to the individual. I personally didn't take my FI because I want the first time he sees me in my dress to be when I am walking down the aisle.
My FI actually wanted to go with me, but I kind of wanted to have it be a surprise. He saw some pics of me in a few of the dresses I tried on, and he's seen the dress itself now that I have it, but he hasn't seen me in it yet. That part I kind of want to keep as a surprise.
the first time i took my best friends and bought it and then later he came across the pics of me in the different dresses and ultimately he didnt like it so i took him the 2nd time and kind of settled for what i could afford at the time. Then i came accross my 3rd and final dress which i took my mother in law and fell in love with it. I showed him the gown and he loved this one on me the best but he does want to go with me to the fittings. My mom says that im suppose to take him with me so i think im going to since he seems more into it than my own mom.
My fiance doesn't even know that I FOUND the dress yet. I'm just not going to say anything b/c I know i'll be way too tempted to tell him everything about it, and I'd like it to be a surprise. When I tried it on, I just KNEW he'd love it, so I'm hoping that I'm right hehe!
Pretty dress!! FI didn't come with me...he's not allowed to see the dress until the day. I know it's going to blow his mind and it helps with the suspense.
Lovely dress! I'm one of the more traditional brides. I don't think that my FI should even see the dress before the wedding day. I don't think of it as being superstitious that's just silly. I think of it as tradition. I'm having a very traditional wedding and I just want to follow all of the traditions. Congrats!
I dont believe theres anything really wrong with him seeing the dress, but we wanted to keep the element of 'surprise'. However, he did see me in my traditional cultural dresses because he was with me on my trip tp HK to buy them. He actually chose one of them for me because he wanted to make sure I looked sexy in it!!
I'm not gonna let my FI see me in my dress. I don't really care about the tradition aspect of it at all. I just think it would be nice if it were a surprise. I'll love to see the look on his face when he first sees me in the dress :)
I found my dress unexpectedly in a non bridal store so FI happened to be with me. He saw the dress but didn't see me in it.. That'll be the surprise element
He came with me to the store but only to help with the translation. They had a sitting area and a curtain separating the different areas, so he could translate without seeing the dress. I don't think it's bad luck for him to see it (and he doesn't have that tradition in his culture), but I do like the idea of it being a surprise on the day of the wedding.
GORGEOUS dress!!! i am a very traditional bride in the fact that i'm keeping to the traditions and we're also southern conservative so my FI seeing my dress before or doing a before at the ceremony was NEVER an option.
however, we've learned that everyone's situation is unique and you make your own traditions and you figure out what's right for you. my FI is an officer in the army and he deployed last october. when we decided not to have the wedding before he left, i realized that i wanted him to see me in my gown before he left and depsite my thinking that he would be totally against it, he loved the idea.
we went with my family and the salon was so great, they were having a trunk show and the designer did my hair and they went the whole nine yards with the veil, jewelry, tiara, my shoes and all and we even had my sister who is the MOH come out before me in her bridesmaid dress.
i was nervous as all get out and i felt like i was really about to get married and i tell you, it was the best thing we ever did and we don't regret it for a second. we were both choked up and crying and so happy and its something that keeps him going now. i would do it all over again!
so although it is traditional for the groom NOT to see the wedding dress, ive learned that you figure you what works for you as a couple and whatever makes yall happy. thats what matters!! (we wont be doing the before look at the ceremony though, we're still keeping to him seeing me for the first time at the aisle!!)
it's really a pretty common thing for grooms to be involved nowadays! do what makes you happy!!
Thanks so much for all of yalls opinons because my mom is driving me nutts with traditional thing saying its not right and that she didnt do it and like i told her its my wedding my tradition no one elses because nor 2 people are alike so thanks so now i can prove to my mom some people do what im doing.
i got mine and took a pic of me on my phone and sent it to him. It's hanging in our guest room in a bag right now. He swears he is not going to get emotional that day, but I know he is!
I definitely want it to be a complete surprise so I'm not saying anything or giving any hints, but it is so hard! I had no idea I would want to blab so much. And I've had to be really careful not to leave my pics out! Hopefully I'll be able to keep it a secret!
my FI went with me. I did the Filene's event, and had no one...the dresses are too heavy! It was definitely a good idea to have him help!
For me, I could care less about tradition. I want magic and a surprise! We will not see each other before the wedding, let alone see each other in our wedding attire before hand. The best things in life are worth waiting for and never expected! I want his jaw to drop when he sees me and I know I will cry when I see him! Can't wait!!!
We are having two ceremonies, a smaller informal one this year and a larger reception next year wear I'll wear formal white dress.
He has already seen this years dress (I started a thread about it). Currently I plan on wearing a a red dress. I had assumed he was going to wear black (95% of the time he does). Well low and behold he mentioned to me that he had no intention of wearing his usual. I panicked that his color choice was gonna clash, so we both went to store and brought the shirt he planned to wear to hold it up against the dress. I value his opinion and aesthetics.
To me its not a big deal. I have shown FH some photos online to get sense of what he likes for the white dress. I won't show him the exact dress, since I now know what he prefers.
Seeing a photo verses you wearing it all done up (hair & makeup) doesn't really take away from the surprise.
Men could honestly care less either way. I don't see the big deal, but do what your comfortable with.
I didnt take him with me but I showed it to him online. I dont think he will even remember what it looks like by next May. He thought that they all looked alike. lol. And they were all very different. I want him seeing me in my dress on our wedding day to be a surprise but thats about it.
I'm ridiculously superstitious, so my fiance is not seeing my dress before the day (he's bringing it to the wedding venue, and I've told him he better not peek, on pain of death!) but in the end each bride has to do what suits her. My friend in Poland had a photo shoot with her husband in the morning before the ceremony, which I wouldn't dream of, but she thought was completely normal.
For me, it's all about the superstition - I've been brought up to not "tempt fate" on things, and somehow I just can't ignore that. A baby is due in my family this week, but I won't buy gifts for her until she arrives safe and sound - for me a baby shower would be my worst nightmare!!!
It's the 21st century, and I think the biggest thing that we've gained by getting this far is to be able to do as we please - have what career we want, vote how we want, get married, don't get married, choose when and if we have children, choose our religion and how we practise it - and I think that freedom of choice should apply to the traditions surrounding weddings. If you like them, keep them, but if you find them stupid or oppressive, ignore them. Tell your mom that lots of things were different when she was young, or her mother was young, but that doesn't make those things right or better.
For my most recent wedding, we had to find coordinating wedding dresses, so we definitely went together to shop.
However, even at my first wedding, I took the groom with me when I went dress hunting. He had very definite ideas about things, and I wanted to make sure that I got a dress that he liked. After all, he was going to be looking at it more than I was.
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