(Closed) OK I get it now.

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I know it’s hard but everyone does it on their own time.  It sounds like you are on the same page with what you want so just be patient!

Post # 4
Member
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It does suck. It also sucks when people have a shorter engagement then you. For instance, one of my friends just got engaged in March and is getting married in a week. I have been engaged almost a year and we still don’t have a date, but we are eloping.

Ofcourse, she did get pregnant…but still! I can’t help but be a tiny bit jealous!

Good luck waiting, it will happen 🙂

Post # 5
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My FI and I have been together for 15 months but got engaged at 4 months. Yeah crazy I know. BUT sometimes you just know. Sometimes someone steps in your life and you actually can’t think of one reason you would want to live without them. Now I wasnt expecting a proposal but when he asked I was so happy to say yes. I was honored and still am. Try not to be jealous over little things like that. It will happen when the time is right. 

Post # 6
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938 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Wow! one of my favorite books, “The Surrendered Single” says that 6 months is long enough to know. It’s  great book by the way.  

But I waited until almost a year to bring it up since my guy and all my friends would think I was crazy…haha! I knew after 4 months 🙂

Post # 7
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938 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I’m also older than you (almost 28) and everyone has their opinion about what timing is appropriate. But only you know what’s right for you and that’s the right ttter what anyone says.  So I respect that you know what you want even though you’re younger.

Post # 8
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3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

It totally does stink when others get engaged and you are still waiting.  I think you hit the nail on the head when you said, you want other to know that you guys are serious too.  That was a huge deal for me. 

Post # 9
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Coming from the other side of this situation, it’s best if you don’t make these other couples engagements about you – it’s a time to be happy for the decision they’ve made. You will have your own journey and will expect the same love and support along the way from coworkers and friends.

Post # 11
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3587 posts
Sugar bee

I know how you feel. I never thought I’d have someone date a shorter time than we have (1yr and 6 months) AND get engaged but my cousin got engaged after maybe 5 months with her guy. I’m happy for her becuase they are the nicest ppl ever, but it did make me sad.

All this being patient will work out in the end. 🙂

Post # 12
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

You still have plenty of time.  Enjoy your relationship!

Post # 13
Member
736 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It is hard to watch others get engaged. I mean I’m happy for those that do get engaged, but I’m more than ready for it to be me too. So I see where you are coming from.

Post # 14
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3668 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I feel ya, sister. I keep seeing Facebook friends who are still in college getting engaged and it’s like, “I remember when you first changed your status to ‘in a relationship’! It wasn’t that long ago!”

One of my friends met a guy, got engaged, and had a wedding, all within one year. But she is in her early 30s and wants to start a family. It’s hard not to compare yourself to other couples, but you just have to remember that every couple has their own reasons and timeline.

Post # 15
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2305 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I understand how you feel. I find my self limiting just how excited I am when SO mentions any talk about engagement only because my BF has been with her SO for 7yrs longer than us and I’m sure it must hurt.

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