(Closed) Ok I need help getting him something for after he proposes?

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Whoa I didn’t know that you’re supposed to give your FI something after he proposes! I didn’t give him anything… But I am giving him a great wedding present (a photo book with boudoir pics of me) so I suppose that makes up for it. But I don’t think you should worry about it, especially with Christmas right around the corner from when you think he’ll be proposing!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

the first time I heard of a proposal presernt was on the bee. Needless to say it was after proposed and I didn’t end of getting him anything. But I hear watches are pretty common ones. if it were up to me I probably would have knitted him something but I end up doing that for everything. 

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I still need to buy him his watch – been waiting for the ‘right time’ (aka when I have some extra cash lying around).  He’ll get it sometime between now and the wedding lol  

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ve never seen anyone else asking about proposal gifts for their guy on the Bee or anywhere.  BUT I did it.  I thought it was BS that he was spending all this money on a ring for me and getting nothing but my eternal love and affection in return.  He’d been talking for years about how much he wanted a fishing kayak, so I ordered him one.  He proudly calls it his engagement kayak and will tell anyone who will listen why it’s important.

Post # 7
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3472 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

His proposal was a surprise, but I did get him a gift aftereward.  He had to leave the next day for a 10 day business trip, so I took the time to build him a custom spice rack (something he’d been wanting for months). I would wait until after to buy it– that way, it wont blow the surprise for him (since you’re not supposed to know). 

Post # 8
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3697 posts
Sugar bee

I got my FI an engagement gift, and I had it ready ahead of time. He is a fencer, and one time when we were over at his fencing coach’s house he was admiring a vintage fencing poster on the wall. I was able to track it down online and got a nice frame for it, and I had it for a couple of months by the time he proposed. I didn’t feel like I needed to justify having it – it was my way of saying “I knew I wanted to marry you, I was excited about it, I got this for you to celebrate.” I think the whole proposal-is-supposed-to-be-a-surprise thing is a little bit of a charade anyhow. If you have a healthy relationship and are communicating with one another, shouldn’t it be a mutual decision and not something that takes you completely by surprise?

(BTW I don’t mean for that to be a criticism of all surprise proposals. There’s a big difference between being surprised by how/when he asks and being surprised that he asks. I don’t think there’s anything wrong – and a lot right – with knowing the proposal will be coming soon and preparing for it by getting a gift.)

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I got my FI an engagement present, but I didn’t know it was a “thing”… I just wanted to get something nice for him because I was so surprised that we got engaged.

I got him a leather jacket, because there was a great sale and he didn’t have one, and I always think that people should have a great leather jacket.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I brough my SO a ring. He proposed to me on our way to holiday im April, I got him a ring a month later, and “proposed” to him exactly 2 months to the day that he asked me. Its really cute, and as he said, i have soemthing that shows that im his, but he had nothing that said he’s mine. Our rings dont match, but we both have one x

 

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