Post # 1
Hello wonderful bees!
Ok long story short..I know my SO is proposing in october. I’d like to get him a watch, he doesnt have any jewlery and I always see him looking at watches but he will never buy one for himself.
Any way, I want to get him a watch( as like a proposal gift to him) but I don’t know if I should get it now and save it for after he proposes but I don’t want him to know that I knew lol. So should I get it, say I was saving it for christmas ? errr..help meeee!!!
What did some of you bees do? Did you buy him a gift after he proposed? Did you know it was coming and go get him something?
Any little bit of help with go along way with me because I’m clueless!!
Post # 3
Whoa I didn’t know that you’re supposed to give your FI something after he proposes! I didn’t give him anything… But I am giving him a great wedding present (a photo book with boudoir pics of me) so I suppose that makes up for it. But I don’t think you should worry about it, especially with Christmas right around the corner from when you think he’ll be proposing!
Post # 4
the first time I heard of a proposal presernt was on the bee. Needless to say it was after proposed and I didn’t end of getting him anything. But I hear watches are pretty common ones. if it were up to me I probably would have knitted him something but I end up doing that for everything.
Post # 5
I still need to buy him his watch – been waiting for the ‘right time’ (aka when I have some extra cash lying around). He’ll get it sometime between now and the wedding lol
Post # 6
I’ve never seen anyone else asking about proposal gifts for their guy on the Bee or anywhere. BUT I did it. I thought it was BS that he was spending all this money on a ring for me and getting nothing but my eternal love and affection in return. He’d been talking for years about how much he wanted a fishing kayak, so I ordered him one. He proudly calls it his engagement kayak and will tell anyone who will listen why it’s important.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
His proposal was a surprise, but I did get him a gift aftereward. He had to leave the next day for a 10 day business trip, so I took the time to build him a custom spice rack (something he’d been wanting for months). I would wait until after to buy it– that way, it wont blow the surprise for him (since you’re not supposed to know).
Post # 8
I got my FI an engagement gift, and I had it ready ahead of time. He is a fencer, and one time when we were over at his fencing coach’s house he was admiring a vintage fencing poster on the wall. I was able to track it down online and got a nice frame for it, and I had it for a couple of months by the time he proposed. I didn’t feel like I needed to justify having it – it was my way of saying “I knew I wanted to marry you, I was excited about it, I got this for you to celebrate.” I think the whole proposal-is-supposed-to-be-a-surprise thing is a little bit of a charade anyhow. If you have a healthy relationship and are communicating with one another, shouldn’t it be a mutual decision and not something that takes you completely by surprise?
(BTW I don’t mean for that to be a criticism of all surprise proposals. There’s a big difference between being surprised by how/when he asks and being surprised that he asks. I don’t think there’s anything wrong – and a lot right – with knowing the proposal will be coming soon and preparing for it by getting a gift.)
Post # 9
I got my FI an engagement present, but I didn’t know it was a “thing”… I just wanted to get something nice for him because I was so surprised that we got engaged.
I got him a leather jacket, because there was a great sale and he didn’t have one, and I always think that people should have a great leather jacket.
Post # 10
@MsVoyageur: I wasn’t planning on doing it as a proposal gift. I never heard of it until the bee also. I just wanted to get him a watch, and I will have enough money saved up by the end of sept. So it’s perfect timing lol. I’m also doing the boudoir photo book as a wedding present.
@MrsWBS: Lol. Well atleast he will eventually get it !! lol
@chloeburch: That’s so sweet! That’s another reason why I want it to be like his ‘engagement present’ He works his butt off for his money and he’s spending a pretty penny on my ring so why not!
@juliette.eliza: That’s a cool idea ( the spice rack!) I know I wish I didn’t know but he’s so forgetful and leaves things around..ugh!!
@KCKnd2: Thanks! I was starting to feel dumb for knowing haha!
@Double_rainbow: That’s nice. I was planning on getting him the watch any way. I’ve been saving for months and I will be done saving by the end of september.
Post # 12
I brough my SO a ring. He proposed to me on our way to holiday im April, I got him a ring a month later, and “proposed” to him exactly 2 months to the day that he asked me. Its really cute, and as he said, i have soemthing that shows that im his, but he had nothing that said he’s mine. Our rings dont match, but we both have one x