(Closed) OK I’m officially a wreck tonight…

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@DreamingBee: Awww hun. Happy almost birthday to you! It sucks sometimes … I get the cases of the “why am I not good enoughs” too. You are good enough. Guys just have bizarre ideas about when the right time for things are… let’s hope it’s soon for you!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I know EXACTLY how you feel!!! Sometimes I seriously feel like if he isn’t proposing to me then he must not really love me, and once I start feeling that way it is just a slippery slope. I wish I could give you advice on how to make you feel better, but I have none. I could say “Try not to think about it” or “Calm down” but that wont work.

I hope you have a great birthday! Are you the Bee who is going to Vegas to see GAGA? If so I am JEALOUS!! For 1. you get to see Lady Gaga (she sold out in my city in 5 min) and 2. you are going to VEGAS!! Yayyyy!! Take pictures of your costume I would love to see it if you are comfortable posting it on here. Also take pictures of the show if they let you bring in a camera. (buy a cheap disposable one and try to hide it in your bra or something, hahaha Laughing)

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

 happy early birthday! i remember that feeling days before my fi popped the question. I was such a wreck.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I mentioned to SO last night in a very light way (we were having a nice, light convo about my wedding gown obsession) that I have to save all the images so I can know what I want some day. THen I mentioned that it’s rather unfair that he has all the control over the situation and I have to just wait and I don’t get to be in control at all. His answer? “Yeah, it’s the last tiny bit of control I have left.” I do kind of call the shots. Always. For everything. I know I have to let him have this, but if he could get a move on, that’d be great. 

Dreamingbee, sometimes men are just idiots. Yours was obviously acting like a baby last night and would you really want a man-child coming for a sleep over? If he wants to come over he’ll need to get ahold of you, otherwise he can sleep in his own, stinky-man bed probably covered with a plaid comforter and smelling of feet. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee

Aww I feel for you. I absolutely hate not living together too. I don’t go over to his house, but we do have lots of arguments about him not coming over on time. Or that he hates having his clothes and stuff spread out between two houses and he can’t ever find anything…

Happy birthday to you! I love Vegas!

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Aww, I hated being in this situation. I used to have a bf that would only want me to come to his house because it had all his videogames, computer, stuff, etc… so I was always packing it up to sleep over. It got old so fast, esp when he would only rarely sleep at my place. Another guy I semi dated actually never slept over at my place… he was all into his own stuff.

And the FI… well when I moved to Swiss land to be with him I was an au pair living with another family, and he had just moved into his own apt from his parents, so you can guess who slept where. πŸ™‚ But it was ok because since I was with him in his apt from the beginning he got used to it and would feel like it wasn’t home if I wasn’t around. (Maybe because I totally organised the kitchen and made yummy yummy things!)

But even so, this kinda stuff is so annoying. My FI chooses to have a travel job and he has more vacation than me and can’t always coordinate to come on my holidays, so we spend a fair amt of time apart… and sometimes I get so annoyed that he is basically choosing to be apart from me! What to do with men… can’t get live with them or without them. πŸ˜›

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Calm down and relax Winkmen are always up to immature things, don’t take it too personally. I do agree that little gliches along the way while waiting are even more excruciating!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Ah the stinky-man-ness. It’s a good one to keep in mind. Eventually most men realize that a nicely made bed with a somewhat girly comforter and you in it is the ultiamte way to sleep. SO just found out about line-dried linens and he was amazed. Silly man. He used to complain about my insistance on having a top sheet. The other day he asked me if a dust ruffle and a bed skirt were the same thing. They can be taught, I swear! (They never completely stop being stinky though, so keep febreeze air effects nearby. It’s the best.)

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Enjoy your birthday trip, DB! πŸ˜€ I’m sure it will be special, regardless of if he proposes or not (easy for me to say, right? ha!) :-/

haha…stinky man thing is true!! BF loves how comfy our bed is now since I moved in. I think girls should move in for awhile, and then out, bc the boy will not know what hit him when the girl leaves. I am going out of town for a few weeks in Sept……….hoping the missing me, no freshly made beds, no yummy foods being prepared on a regular basis, etc…gives my bf a good kick in the pants!

Post # 14
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Helper bee

@artichokey haha about the top sheet!! My bf HATES when I tuck the sheets in at the end of the bed. His side ALWAYS is untucked (he’s really tall) and it drives me crazy.I bet my bf doesn’t know what a dust ruffle is!

My bf was admiring his closet full of nice clothes the other day (totally all my doing. I upgraded everything he wears). He’s very independent but I know that he likes having me around.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

@MissBuffalo: Oh yes, had to teach SO that sheet must be tucked on the corners as well as across the foot of the bed. Honestly, I think he must have slept with his blankets aroudn him like a next. i prefer to feel like I’m a letter slipping into an envelope. “snug as a bug in a rug”

SO said the other day, “yeah, you buy me stuff all the time. i never have to buy clothes. it’s kinda nice.” This is how I get him to stop wearing ‘Bad Brains” t-shirts with holes where the armpit should be.

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