(Closed) Ok I’m ready to go back to the “dating” part of our relationship. =) haha

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

Maybe you could put a couple HOT DATE NIGHTS on the calendar!  That way, it’s something to look forward to – it can be a “no wedding talk” time, too!

Hang in there!!!!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

O my gosh I totally agree. I want a date too, I tell him this and it just gets shoved out of the way for wedding crap. What happened we used to have a lot of fun together. O I so feel that anguish!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I totally get you.  We were in the same boat.  What we recently did for a ‘date’ was got a couples massage and hung out at the day spa together, which was so much fun and sooo nice to just unwind w/out any wedding talk. 

I read online that to ‘spice up’ your old and comfy relationship, you should arrive separate at a restaurant  or party and meet at the bar and pretend you’re strangers or something like that.  Sounds weird to me but also, could be fun. 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am worried this will happen when it gets around to the movin’ in time and coordinating my move from my home to his, but somehow we always find time and pencil in a date night often!

To me wedding planning isn’t stressful.  I dunno.  Maybe it’s b/c I’m an encore or maybe it’s b/c I love to party plan! 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

i agree with you!! unfortunately, with 3 weeks to go, it feels like it gets worse. scheduling dates when no wedding talk is allowed helps.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Have a hot date night with no wedding talk allowed!

None, nada, zippo.

Enjoy getting to know eachother all over again 🙂

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Just wait until you get to the “married” part of your relationship, it is THE BEST!!

If you are getting so lost in planning the wedding that you’re losing why you want the marriage, then it is time for a break! A month before I took all the DIY project  on my list, and decided what I “needed.” Everything else was crossed off, and either was purchased or just never happened. Every good projects needs editing before the final draft.

You have a month left, so unfortunately the stress only builds from here. BUT… the momentum starts as well. It feels different to be planning for something so close you can almost taste it, then those months and years where you are doing things thinking “will this day ever come.”

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I definitely recommend date nights/days. We have been using them for about two months now & they definitely have turned into steamy nights 🙂 Rule though: No wedding talk during dates! We plan to keep them going once we are married.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House

Funny you mention this because just last night, after I finished ranting about the stupid invitations and how they are driving me insane, Mr. Beagle told me….”we need to have a date night this weekend, without the wedding” 🙂

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I feel you. lol. When we were just dating theings were a lot more…exciting and spontanious. Not so much now. lol.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

Ha, the only thing steamy about us lately is our move from our apt to our condo in 98 degree heat last weekend : )

So much going on right now….it’ll pass though. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Wow!  This is exactly where I was a few weeks ago!  I was very honest about it with FI.  He agreed but pointed out that we’ve both let things slide a bit – a point that I totally agreed on!  I came home a few days later to flowers and a card.  When I started to cry (emotional these days, of course!) he said, “I’m sorry but these are long overdue.”  We’ve also been trying to be very intentional about date nights with no “business” talk allowed.  For us this means no talking about wedding planning, combining checking accounts, moving details.  We’ve BOTH been trying to make a very intentional effort to return to some of the more thoughtful things we did during the “dating” days and it really has helped. 

Wednesday will be my last day of work the week that we get married.  We will both have Thursday and Friday off before our Saturday wedding.  I’ve already requested that we have a date night on that Wednesday after work with “no business allowed”.  My parents will come in on Thursday and his family will be here on Friday.   I told him it’s important to me that we can have that evening to catch up and reconnect before the craziness starts!  Thankfully, he has agreed! Smile

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Mr. M are ALL about the date nights – right now wedding planning is just fun for us but I think at a point they will turn into wedding free dates!!!!!!

 

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