Post # 1
This is it ladies lets have a free space to put forward our views on the age debate, this becomes free space to put forth you views on what age is best to get married and why?? But the rules are that NO one person should be targeted and you must use factual evidence to support your case. It is important that No one age group or person should feel bullied or made to feel as if they are making bad life choices. This space is also here so that we can keep the age debate off other boards that are about other things.
Post # 3
I don’t feel there is an ideal age bracket to get married in. I do feel that no one younger than 20 should get married, only because they haven’t existed long enough to reach the maturity I feel is needed for a stable marriage, but I wouldn’t deny anyone the right to marry as long as they were consenting and legally able to.
Whatever age you feel ready to be married at is the age bracket you should be married in.
Post # 4
There is no ideal age, should be WHEN YOU FEEL READY. A person could be ready at 18 and a person could be ready at age 50. Why does it matter what age you are?
Post # 5
I think it’s pretty obvious this is going to cause people to argue and get defensive pretty fast. It is against the TOS to post things to cause drama.
There is no right age, or better age to marry. It’s between the individuals involved and I don’t think anyone can say what is right for anyone else.
Post # 6
You shouldn’t even think about marriage until you’re 40. Everyone knows that.
Post # 7
@Hyperventilate: Agreed! My Grandma got married at 16, but that was 55 years ago!
Post # 8
Reason why I am getting married at 21
I want a big family of 5 kids if I start much later I could struggle or have problems with fertility and why struggle if I don’t have to?
I own a house and have a stable fulltime real Job as a Teacher.
I still have fun and am silly teen love with my FI while being in grown up I know what I want and lets make good choice Love as well.
I also know all there is to know about him, I trust him so much more because there is no high school gf he got in trouble with or anything like that. I know everything about him and he knows all there is about me and it is an amazing feeling to not have to worry about the past of feel insecure.
He is my life partner and we have really spent our whole lives together.
It is amazing to feel like I am living in a real life fairy tale it makes me grateful everyday.
Post # 9
I am not trying to cause drama I just want everyone to post what they are getting married and why it is right for them. so that everyone can see it doesn’t matter and will stop judging the younger bee’s on all their posts.
Post # 10
Seriously though, why is this a topic? I have two opinions to contribute:
a. This topic is going to cause a whole lot of (unnecessary) butthurt.
b. Every person has different experiences, different life goals, and a different rate of maturation. Shouldn’t it go without saying that there is no one magical age at which point you marry?
Post # 11
I’m 26 and will be 27 by the time I’m married. I think this depends on where each individual is at with their own life. I have a friend who married her high school sweetheart (dating since 9th grade) at 22 and she is now 26 and pregnant with her 3rd child. I have another friend who married for the first time at 32 as she had not mEt “the one” til later in life.. I don’t think it’s about right age, I think it’s about the right person! 🙂
Post # 12
It doesn’t have to cause drama if we don’t let it. I want everyone to be more supportive of younger bee’s because we are copping a lot judgement at the moment and I just wanted to give everyone a space to air out how they feel don’t let it get nasty we are all grown up we should be able to do this .
Post # 13
I say enjoy your 20’s & get married in your 30’s.
Post # 14
I got married at 22. I loved our wedding, and still am very much in love with my husband. We had been together 7 years by the time we were wed.
However, I do not think most people should even be thinking about marriage until they’re at least 25. We know so many couples now who got married between 20 – 24 and are already getting divorces after 4 years or less of marriage. Unless something truly heinous happens (infidelity, abuse), a divorce less than 4 years into the marriage is probably a sign you weren’t ready to make that commitment when you did. At least that seems to be the case for the majority of the divorces among friends of ours.
Post # 15
To be fair, there are always exceptions. But in GENERAL, I’d say 25-30 is the best age. Generally people are done school, somewhat started in careers, and their brains are fully developed. They’ve had time to do *some* things on their own, including a bit of dating and travel. They know more what they want out of life, who they are, and what they will and won’t accept when it comes to relationships.
If I married the guy I was dating from 19-24, we’d be divorced by now. If I married the guy I was dating from 17-19, same thing lol.
Post # 16
@misslillypad: I voted for all of the, because I think you can get married whenever you want, and circumstances vary per person.