- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Reposted from family to bridesmaid i think it should be posted her but don’t know how to change it:(
OK so I love my MOH to bits, she is my brothers GF and if I had to pick between them if they split up it would be her all the way 🙂
My dilemma is she seems to want to be involved more and I would love her to be. We keep stealing moments over facebook where I inundate her with all the stuff I have done and she is always attentive and excited and we share our opinions, but she always seems a little disappointed that she has not been there all the way or at least part of it. The problem being is she is my brothers GF and they live with my real mam. I was adopted at the age of 8 but he and my other brothers remained with her and my father. Without going in to details I’m actually glad my mam let me be adopted and I think she did me a favour but that is only a recent thing for years I hated her. Every time I invite MOH to be part of anything my mam always asks her if she can come or be part of it and I don’t want her there. I don’t want to hurt her hence why my MOH is getting a bit of the cold shoulder but I don’t want her involved in every little detail. She came with us to find my dress and that hurt a little because she got to see it before my adoptive dad who I am much closer to (he lives with me and FI) but I did not have the heart to say no to her. As her only daughter I can see why she wants to play a part and be involved.
My adoptive mum died when I was 20 and I would literally kill for her to be here now be part of all this, plan every moment and detail with her and my mam knows I have much more love and respect for my adoptive mum than I do her but she is not here and I guess my mam thinks she should step into this place.