(Closed) OK so I received his letter..

posted 6 years ago in Military
Post # 3
4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Marraige seems pretty implied In My Humble Opinion. I wouldn’t plan on being old and buying properties with someone. “Us before work” also sounds like marriage. He probably didn’t want to write exactly “we are going to get married” because he hasn’t asked yet, and he doesn’t want to ask in a letter.”you are in all of my plans” also sounds like marraige, and like he is planning on building his life around you, which is basically what marraige is.

Post # 4
18645 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

@asscherlover:  I agree, he included you in his plans.  If he didn’t, I would be more worried that he didn’t see a future with you.

Post # 5
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I totally agree with previous poster!!!! He sounds like that is where he is going wants future. And everything with u but doesn’t want to ask in a letter! I mean u really wouldn’t want him to. I know it’s hard speaking as a military fi but u don’t know what hegads planned when he returns it could be the surprise of your life! U never know and it sounds like he is fully committed just didn’t say the word marriage, possibly on purpose. 

Post # 6
1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Same as PPs. Your Boyfriend or Best Friend sounds kinda like my fiance, in that he expresses his feelings through concrete things: he thinks you’d be a great CEO = he thinks you’re amazing, he will follow you = he wants you to be happy, he wants to buy property with you = he wants to spend his life with you. I agree with PPs that marriage is implied in all of that.

It does sound like you need to make your life goals clear to him, and make sure you’re on the same page about having a family. I don’t know if that’s something to put into a letter or better to wait and discuss in person. Military SO’s might have better advice about that.

It sounds like you two are very devoted to one another and on track to all the things you want. Hang in there!

Post # 7
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Don’t lose hope! My husband and I were in a similar state relationship-wise. I knew I wanted marriage, family, the whole she-bang future. He just wanted to be with me. It took him deploying to propose, but we were never too far apart in what we wanted out of our relationship. And don’t rush marriage just because he’s active duty. Take your time and enjoy it!

Post # 8
873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Deployments bring this out, I think.  Looking bad, I remember my husband saying things like, “I just can’t wait to get home and get on with my life…and yes, that means with you.” I just think guys don’t actually like saying “marriage”, even though they’re thinking it.  “you are in all of my plans” is basically saying he wants to marry you without actually asking.

Anyway, that was literally the only marriage talk I got, then he proposed 3 weeks after he got home…we’d only been dating 15 months, with a 6 month deployment in there.  Don’t lose hope!

Post # 10
8 posts
  • Wedding: April 2012

I can’t help it–I have to play the Devil’s Advocate here: 

YOUR comments about hating work and wanting heaps of kids vs. HIS ideas about owning property, wanting you to finish your studies, be a CEO/have a career don’t quite jive–somehow, it just doesn’t sound like you guys are on the same page. 

It seems like YOU want a Breadwinner to support you and all those kids, but HE wants more of an equal financial partner.  Heck, maybe he wants YOU to work while he stays home with the kids, you never know : )

This is definitely something you want to discuss with painful clarity.

Post # 11
304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Deployments definitely give boys plenty of time to think about the important things in life.

My man and his mates just got back from Afghanistan recently and there has been the “engagement wave” – and we were first! Yay! 😀

When is your man back?? I’m sure you’ll have a lot to look forward to when he comes home 🙂

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