Post # 1
This is a very exciting time for a woman, When she announces that she is getting married. So like all of us BEES on here were talking about nothing but the upcoming nuptials/plans. The dress the hall you name it. Exciting right??
Well i have a coworker who isnt all that enthusiastic about this. She has been engaged for several years now and isnt making any qualms about getting married anytime soon. OK fine. But I AM happy and in love. I want to share it with everyone. Anyone who will listen actually! lol But when im at work I feel her evil glares and see the scrunching up of the face and the eye rolling (thats the one that really gets me going) i try not to react, But its only so much i can take. JUST be happy for me
Has anyone else experienced something like this, How did you handle it?
Post # 3
I got married last summer, but the best piece of advice I heard was that no one will be as excited for your wedding as you will be. It’s important to be realistic about who will be interested in talking about wedding planning; otherwise, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment unfortunately. I generally tried not to bring up the wedding planning unless someone specifically asked about it (that’s probably just my personality though).
Post # 4
Do you work at a workplace where everyone talks about their personal lives often? I’ve worked in places where people are generally uncomfortable hearing about others’ social/personal/family lives. Some times people just don’t feel like socializing at work and want to keep things separate. Don’t take it personally 🙂
On the other hand, if this woman does her share of gabbing about herself but is rude to you when you’d like to share, it’s really not appropriate for her to eye roll and glare.
Post # 5
You know. I recently got engaged…march 19. I was working on a project with a woman that has been engaged for years. She was not happy at all. Whenever I mentioned it, which wasn’t much, she would make a point of letting everyone know that they haven’t set a date because she is too busy.
So, sometimes I think we have to be a little sensitive. I think there are two kinds of engaged. Engaged and we set a date. Engaged forever.
Post # 6
i really never talk about it to anyone unless they bring it up…which people invariably always do..but you really need to tone it down if people aren’t asking you outright. it can be annoying to others (and distracting in a working environment) if you are always tlaking about it and they aren’t interested….IMO.
Post # 7
My Dad isn’t too happy that we’re reconciled, and planning a ‘wedding’ again (I say ‘wedding’ because we’re not doing a big ceremony, or anything.. probably just the JOP, and small restaurant reception). I know he’s just being cautious because of how FI, and I split before, but we’ve worked really hard on our relationship, and things are better than they ever were before.
That being said, my Dad made a quip about how getting married is a waste of time/money, as they always end up in divorce, and also wondering “how long [we’re] going to last, this time“, and I just let it go in one ear, and out the other. He’s entitled to his opinions, and feelings.. but, I wish he’d just keep his mouth shut, sometimes.
Post # 8
I get what you all are saying, and maybe i do need to tone it down. Its just that i wont be saying anything for the most part ill be on the computer gazing at something bridal and then another person sees what im looking at and ooohs and ahhhs begin and before you know it, a crowd has started. Of course i do this in our down time as i do work in the lab. But she sees the crowd or will even come and look at whatever were looking at and then the facial expressions and eye rolling begins. I am a very animated person, i get excited. Everything most of my the other ladies in the lab ask ME first how everyrhing is going. Some i tell and some i dont. MAybe i do need to be more sensitive. THANKS BEES!
Post # 9
@janaeesiss: it seems like you’re handling everything ok then 🙂 i wouldn’t worry too much about it…be yourself! it appears there are others around that care! EFF the eye roller of doom!
Post # 10
Try not to look at wedding stuff at work? 🙂
Post # 11
But I AM happy and in love. I want to share it with everyone
the thing is not everyone will care – just like those annoying people who talk about their kids pooping or something stupid about their furbaby – your wedding IS exciting… to you but not to everyone else