- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
I have a somewhat unusual situation. I got engaged in 2010, but you know, life gets in the way so finally — my fiance and I are set to wed in October 2013.
Between then and now, my closests girlfriends have had life altering events. One got married in 2011 and had a baby in June of 2012. The other got married early 2012, another one moved in with her BF and is now having a baby (due in May 2013), and the last one (married w/ kids already) recently graduated nursing school and just started a job. All of these ladies — are my bridesmaids.
Given that the FI and I started doing some initial planning early 2012, I soon realized that I will be needing their help a lot during my wedding planning process. I have not really shared any information with any of them, because I know they are very busy and with the holidays here, I really didn’t want to bore them with wedding details until 2013 (LOL). So now that 2013 is literally days away, I was thinking of sending them an email –just to reconfirm that they are all still willing to help me. The last thing I want is to be bridezilla, and make them feel that I am forcing them into something they don’t have time for. I will completely understand if they back out (and yes, they will still be invited, of course!), there really are no hard feelings. I’d rather know now then in months later when I don’t have the time to change any of the plans.
My question is.. Is it rude to send this email? Should I assume they are all still good to go? My fear is that they are probably uncomfortable telling me they don’t have time to be a bridesmaid, and they’re probably scared to offend me? I just wanted to let them know that its really OK. But at the same time, I don’t want to offend them, too?
Should I send this email (worded very carefully, of course) or not? HELP!