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We had a sit down dinner serving filet mignon only. It wasn't a problem for anyone. There was also a veggie appetizer and salad as well. There was also a silent vegetarian option. It worked out very well.
Same here we are having Filet with one huge stuffed shrimp. We did not include anything about food options in our invites. Our caterer has vegeterian meals also in case someone does not eat meat. I think the one meal option is the a pretty popular trend.
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Scoobert-I don't think there is anything wrong serving just one entree. For my wedding this summer, we are only serving salmon. It's a buffet so if anyone really can't stand it, they will have plenty else to fill up on. Are the other courses substantial enough so that someone could be full of them?
what would you do if someone didn't like what you had chosen? even if everyone can eat pork, picking only one option basically assumes that everyone else will like it as much as you did. maybe you should choose a more standard, people-pleaser option like chicken or meat?
Scoobert-I don't think there is anything wrong serving just one entree. For my wedding this summer, we are only serving salmon. It's a buffet so if anyone really can't stand it, they will have plenty else to fill up on. Are the other courses substantial enough so that someone could be full of them?
I should have mentioned a side salad, rolls, potatoes, wild rice and a vegtable will be included with whatever option we choose....
I've been to plenty of weddings where only one entree was served. If you know that your guests will have no problems eating pork (or even better-- if you know they ENOJY it), then by all means, stick to one entree option.
We're only doing a chicken entree, although there is a veggie option too. We went through the same thing, originally thinking we wanted buffet or stations, then realizing it actually was more expensive that way!
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be mindful of any religious restrictions that might keep somebody from eating pork, too. but if you've got plenty of sides and a vegetarian entree available as requested, too, then go for it. i'd have no problem with it as a guest.
The "silent" option is a vegetarian option available upon request, but not advertised. So a guest would have to actually ask if there is something different available to get it. Most caterers will do that, and I think its a good idea - we are having a buffet, but the chef has the ability to do plated veggie entrees should that be necessary. Oddly enough, while my friends call right away about all their relationship changes, many of them drift in and out of stages of vegetarianism...
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We are having one entree and an option for vegetarians. I wouldn't worry about it. Honestly, I think when people try to please EVERYONE then the food suffers. That's why most wedding food sucks...it can't have too much spice, too much, sauce, can't be this, can't be that cause it's trying to appeal to all palates and in the end it's unappealing period.
It's kind of like how you know you are in a bad restaurant when there are 50 things on the menu and really good restaurants have 6 or 7 things only. THis way the chef can devote attention to the dishes. Fiance and I are foodies and having excellent food was really important to us. We chose our reception site b/c of the 5 star chef and you can only chose one dish.
Yes, there may be one or two people who are SO picky that they won't want to eat the main course, but most people will eat what's put in front of them even if they aren't crazy about. I don't like seafood but I've eaten a lot of salmon b/c it was the only thing being served at a conferece...and I survived.
I do not see this as a problem at all. We plan to do the same thing. plated meal with one entree option. chicken.
there will be salad and 3 sides on the plates as well a bread and butter. so if they dont want the chicken they should still have plenty to eat.
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I think it's fine. I've been to may wedding, both large with no bidget and simple small with tight budgetrs, where one plate was served and it was great.
Being on a tight budget myself I would opt for the plated selection to avoid sticker shock after the reception is over and Uncle Bob had 4 plates of just stuffing at $35 a pop!
I think it is OK to have to just one option, if it isn't pork. We are having a plated dinner, but it is a chicken pasta dish. I think too many people these days don't eat pork products. Silent vegetarian dinners sound like a good idea, but first ask what a person has to do to get one. They have to be served a meal they can't eat, they must then track down staff, complain, just to have a staff member not actually know there is another option. They have to check the kitchen. All this time, you're embarrassed, and everyone else at the table doesn't know what to do-wait for your meal to come, or just start eating. You apologize and tell them to eat. You meal finally comes, often dry from being placed under the heat lamps, and everyone else is finishing their meal. They avoid your glance, assuming you are just picky.
OK, more information than you probably needed, but I just wanted to give you the perspective of someone who does not eat pork.
I have to agree with Niki, it's fine to have one real "option" but you should make it clear that if for whatever reason you really can't eat it, you can be accommodated. When I'm a guest at a wedding that doesn't advertise vegetarian options, I don't want to be a pest and bug people for something they may not have prepared for, so I usually try to make do on bread/salad without asking. Could you put a teeny little note at the bottom of the menu saying that an alternate option is available for those who do not eat pork? Then they can ask the waiter without feeling guilty, but people who just sort of prefer chicken will hopefully just suck it up.
I note at the bottom of the menu works - at the events where I have seen the silent veggie option the waiter who brought the plates (for a plated meal) or the salad course (for a buffet type meal) described the entree and side dishes, and requested that guests let him know if they had dietary restrictions that weren't accomodated by the chosen menu. At that point most people who need a vegetarian, low salt, sauce on the side, no tree nuts type of thing will speak up. So no, you didn't have to figure out for yourself that there was another option, or feel like you were making a scene. What should be clear, and a good waitperson doesn't really have a problem conveying this in an appropriate manner, is that the hosts really want to accomodate any dietary restrictions you might have, but that in general there is one dinner being served. That way people who just aren't crazy about chicken don't feel entitled to order a steak.
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Hello Bees - I need some advice about the meal we wanted to serve at the reception. To give you the full story, I have to give you a little background first....
I wanted a plated meal for dinner, but FI desperately wanted a buffet. I tried to dissuade him, but he was set on the buffet. I tried to explain how the buffet worked, but he really wanted it so I agreed. I confirmed this wish with him before I ordered invitations. As our guests did not have to make a menu choice because of the buffet, there is not the option for them to indicate their selection on the response cards.
Last week FI and I had the tasting at the hall - we were deciding on the two options for the buffet - we confirmed we liked the pork loin served on a bed of cranberry and apply dressing and the stuffed chicken breast the best. Of the two options we both really liked the pork, it was by far the better option - both from a taste and presentation aspect.
Here is where it gets interesting - FI finally understands that the buffet charge is per plate instead of per person. He thinks this is silly and doesn't want to pay for a guest to eat three times because they use three plates, so he doesn't want to do the buffet anymore. Great - I would rather do a plated dinner anyway. However, we do not have the response cards to give guests an option for thier meal. Would it be terrible to only serve one option for dinner?
We are paying for the wedding ourselves, so we are cost conscious and reprinting the response cards is not a viable option. Not to mention that the hall would charge more per person for us to have a plated meal with two menu options - so that is not an option either.
So, do we just serve one meal - plated, a little more elegant. Or, have the buffet where guests have a choice and we just hope that we don't have a much larger bill than expected from seconds or thirds plate usage....
I should note that we (us, and our guests) do not have any vegan, vegetarian or religious concern regarding serving meat or pork in particular.
Thanks for your help!