Post # 1
So little backstory, I got engaged last year to my perfect guy, my high school sweetheart. We waited 9 years to get engaged so we could finish college and support ourselves. We both have good jobs, we do well for ourselves for a couple in their mid-20s. Well when we started our ring search I told my FI that I would be happy with a CZ until he could afford a diamond without financing it because he does not like to have debt. When he proposed he did so with a CZ telling me he would buy me the perfect diamond soon. I was over the moon and my ring is gorgeous even with the CZ. I had no problem showing off my ring and being proud of it. No one asked if it wasn’t a real diamond, they probably assumed it was considering we could afford it (if we just financed a portion of it).
Flash forward a year, my best friend just got engaged to her high school sweetheart. Our lives parallel quite a bit. I was so excited for her! I see her ring and she has this beautiful diamond. This is when the insecurity about my CZ went into full force! My parents don’t even know I have a CZ, no one does, or at least they don’t tell me they know by looking at it. I was perfectly happy with my CZ until now. But now I feel so awkward, I feel embarassed to show my ring, I’m scared my parents will compare our rings and see that mine is fake.
I went to FI’s house after seeing my friend. We’re in the process of buying a home so I know that’s where our money needs to be, but I ask him if our next big splurge can be on a diamond. I voice my insecurities and all he says it that a diamond can wait. We need to have a savings and build our home first. I know he’s right and that those things are all more important. I wish I wasn’t feeling insecure like this. Anyone else having similar issues?
I’ve been looking into Moissy and Asha to replace my current CZ, but I’m worried I’ll still feel insecure because it isn’t the real deal and I’d be trying to pass it off that way. I know owners of moissy are proud to tell people the stone is unique and not a diamond. Any advice? Anyone with an asha out there can you tell me how similar you really think it is to a diamond?
Post # 3
Don’t let your own insecureties ruin a great thing! Try to calm down and think clearly for a bit… if for over a year, no one has questioned the authenticity of your ring… why do you think they would start now? Diamonds come in so many colors & clarities, two of the same size side-by-side would likely look completely different. You’ll get your diamond, just be patient! In the mean time, be happy for your friend and don’t stress!
Post # 4
What about an enhanced diamond?
Post # 5
Moissanite is the real deal if you rock if with confidence. Asha is CZ with a diamond coating so if you want the diamond look, Asha would probably be best with you. Moissanite has a double refractive index so if you don’t like uber sparkle, then stay away from moissanite. I hope you get what you want and I hope you can be happy with the choice. Don’t let anything bring you down. ^_^
Post # 6
@His Lil SantosGirl: What is an enhanced diamond?
Post # 7
@TamiN: well said, i agree.
Post # 8
I have an Asha, and I love it love it.
It’s not meant to ‘pass off’ as a diamond, it’s just what my FI and I decided to do. I didn’t want a diamond, and I wanted a clear stone. I came across information about Asha, and loved the idea behind it.
Here’s a picture of mine – honestly, I’m a bad photographer, so don’t take this as a good representation of what it would always look like. In person it’s sooo sparkly, and the cut is amazing.
Post # 9
@napabridekelsey: wow that’s really pretty! I wouldn’t even be able to tell the difference and that sparkle is amazing!
Post # 10
I have a CZ, but it might be asha, I don’t know. But I do know that we have everyone fooled! Our plan was the same, CZ now, diamond after buying the house etc, but honestly I don’t think we will bother changing it. No one knows, and it doesn’t really matter. Remember no one cares about your ring as much as you do. people aren’t going to think much more than ‘nice ring!’. How often to you think in great detail about the jewelry your friends own? So relax, you don’t need to feel self concious, just enjoy being engaged and having an engaged friend to share it all with!
Post # 11
Here is a photo of mine, its super sparkly too!
Post # 12
@napabridekelsey: Beautiful ring! Love that split shank!
Please excuse my ignorance but does Asha cloud like regular CZ? I’ve always heard that CZ clouds later down the road. I have a Moissanite but totally was considering a CZ or Asha but I always heard that it clouds. Which made me nervous because I wanted my “forever ring.” I hope I don’t offend anyone, I was just curious.
@FutureMrsDP: I love my moissanite! I can understand your insecurities, I know there are people who will look down on me because I don’t have a diamond. And it’s very easy to say “don’t worry about what others think, don’t be insecure.” Sometimes it’s hard not to be. That said, I think you should rock your CZ with confidence and try not to be insecure. And, no one said you have to tell anyone it’s a CZ, only you know. Let people think what they want to think…
Post # 13
@SweetRose2011: thank you!
@Roux: I totally agree! We wanted to upgrade to a nice gemstone later on, but I’m so in love with my ring, I would never consider the upgrade now!
Post # 14
@TessaDL: No, Asha does not cloud like a CZ does. It has a carbon coating on it, that mimics the hardness and the durability of a diamond.
Here’s a link to the Asha website that explains the coating: click here
ETA: Here’s the text from the website about clouding:
Standard CZ is somewhat porous. Skin oils, soap and dirt can stick to and be absorbed into the stone clouding and dulling its appearance with time. Asha’s ADT is non-porous (like a diamond), and with its coefficient of friction less than that of Teflon, non-stick, so skin oils, etc. can be easily cleaned away. This smoothness of the coating means dirt has less of an opportunity/ability to stick to it, reducing the frequency of cleaning needed to keep your Asha beautiful.
Post # 15
Ashas are gorgeous. My friend has a RHR with an Asha old mine cut and it’s the most jaw dropping thing. They have such a glow about them.
Post # 16
@KatyElle: I agree! I don’t know what it is about them…and I love that they have so many different cuts. It was hard deciding on the RB Hearts and Arrows…I LOVE the old mine cut!