(Closed) OK, Your wedding is over,… What mattered most to you?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Great Thread Idea!   Standing by for the answers.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I just got married this Saturday! Woot Woot!!! 

I remember everything pretty well! Mostly I remember the toasts… they made me cry! So many people talked and they were all amazing and beautiful and heart felt! I remember the vows and what the minister said and who I danced with! I really remember everything… which is good since it was 2 days ago! 🙂 

My wedding was about $15,000 give or take. Which is pretty expensive for where I am from.

I think I spent every penny pretty wisely. So many people told me it was the best wedding they had ever been to that I don’t think I would change a thing!

Right now I am wishing I could find someone to preserve my bouquet…. so I am wishing to spend money on that! 

One of my bridesmaids got really sick while we were getting ready and I told her she didn’t need to feel like she had to stay. I feel bad that she couldn’t have been there, but in the long run it didn’t matter at all! 🙂 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

What do you remember? I’m remember being very, very happy and having lots and lots of fun.

What was most important to you? loaded question: during planning, during reception? during execution? I’m not sure how to answer enjoying the day and being happy regardless of whatever crap may have gone wrong (which was not much)

How expensive was your wedding? 30-35K

What do you wish you hadn’t spent the money on? Nothing, everything I had was worth money.

And what do you wish you had spent the money on? I wish I had spent more on a photographer.

Was there anything that upset you at the time, that now you couldn’t care less about?? Absolutely nothing. (ie the things that upset me then- still upset me now)

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

What do you remember?
I remember just about everything. Honestly!

What was most important to you? Besides ending up married to my wonderful husband? But if I had to choose I really wanted to end up with some great pictures (which thankfully I got!) But I wanted my pictures to reflect what I was feeling and for everyont to relax and have a good time.

How expensive was your wedding? We spent about 12k on our wedding, including our honeymoon!

What do you wish you hadn’t spent the money on? I can’t really say. Since we were on such a tight budget I made sure that if I spent money on something I felt I couldn’t do without. Also as much as I loved my wedding I wish I had the guts to elope and spend the money on other things…like a house! But that being said, I dont regret my wedding at all.

And what do you wish you had spent the money on? Nothing. I wish we had more money to invite a few more people.

Was there anything that upset you at the time, that now you couldn’t care less about?? Hrm…not really. I guess I was upset that my husband was complete stone-faced when I was walking down the aisle. But he had run into a glass window right before the ceremony and was still a little ‘goofy’. But I wasn’t really upset about it.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

What do you remember?

I pretty much remember everything. I didn’t get the bridal blur that so many people do.

What was most important to you?

Probably the photography, the bridesmaid dresses and my dress.

How expensive was your wedding?

We came in around $12 grand

What do you wish you hadn’t spent the money on?

I think I would’ve been happier with a cheaper dress, but only because there was one I liked. 

And what do you wish you had spent the money on?

I wish I would’ve gotten a better DJ. Oh well!

Was there anything that upset you at the time, that now you couldn’t care less about??

Not really. I tried to stay really calm throughout the day. I was kind of…sad…that the venue broke one of our toasting flutes, causing my dad to have to run home to get a different set, but it all worked out in the end.

 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

What do you remember?

Just about everything! I mean, it might have gotten a little blurry at the bar afterwards. 

What was most important to you?

Just that everyone had a good time. 

How expensive was your wedding?

$30k

What do you wish you hadn’t spent the money on?

I can’t really think of anything.  I thought everything we spend was worthwhile!

And what do you wish you had spent the money on?

Okay I’m starting to sound boring, but I don’t think I missed out on anything.  

Was there anything that upset you at the time, that now you couldn’t care less about??

 Nope.  The only thing that upset me was that I knew something was wrong because everyone was running around and in crisis mode and they wouldn’t tell me.  I got pissed.  Finally they told me, and it was no big deal at all.  I would pissed about that again, because that shit is annoying, and I told people beforehand not to hide stuff from me. 

 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

What do you remember? 
I remember being so deliriously happy and the overwhelming amount of love in the room. Also getting to the end of the aisle and realizing my DH was crying.

What was most important to you? The ceremony. I didn’t even start planning it until a few weeks out. My godfather officiated and it was just perfect. 

How expensive was your wedding? 37k-ish not including my ering, gifts to eachother or the honeymoon 

What do you wish you hadn’t spent the money on? mmm nothing really… the invites were pricey but they were exactly what I wanted.

And what do you wish you had spent the money on? A day of coordinator. I was calm but my mom was frazzled and I wish she had enjoyed herself more. 

Was there anything that upset you at the time, that now you couldn’t care less about?? My mom had a hair disaster and my MUA had to sneak her in. I wasn’t super upset but it stressed me out. Now the pics are hilarious (much funnier now that I know it all worked out)

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

What do you remember? I remember the entire day, but what stands out most is the ceremony. I know there were people there watching, but honestly all I remember clearly are my husband and the minister. I absolutely loved our wedding day.

What was most important to you?  Other than my husband, the venue. I adored where we were married and loved everything about it and would totally have another party there if I had the money. We selected the venue because they are pet friendly and our 2 dogs could be part of the day.

How expensive was your wedding? I had hoped to keep it around $15,000. It ended up being about $21,000-22,000. Totally worth going over.

What do you wish you hadn’t spent the money on? My dress. I wish I had spent less on the dress. A year later and I still regret the dress I chose. Also the DJ-see the next question.

And what do you wish you had spent the money on? I wish that we had skipped the DJ and just had the bluegrass band that played during the ceremony and cocktail hour for the whole evening. There weren’t a lot of dancers in the crowd and in hindsight I’d rather have the live music all night so folks could talk and catch up. It probably would have cost us about the same to go with just the bluegrass band.

Was there anything that upset you at the time, that now you couldn’t care less about?? Nah~I wasn’t happy with the photographer the day of the wedding and I am still not happy with the photographer I chose. Not because of bad pictures, but I wasn’t happy with her attitude. Other than the photographer, nothing really major went wrong for us.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What do you remember? 

Everything honestly. Being so happy to be married and to have everyone there. Nervous, embarassed. I still remember every litle detail, but it was only a month away, and my memory is ridiculous. 

What was most important to you? 


Honestly not one part of my wedding was the “most important”.. everything was special. I made sure to have a piece of my husband and I in everything.. 😀 

How expensive was your wedding? 

Honestly I don’t know.. it is the 35-40 range without rings/presents/honeymoon. 

What do you wish you hadn’t spent the money on? 

Nothing.. food was amazing, paying extra to have my song was worth it.. 

And what do you wish you had spent the money on? 

A better cake, but only sort of. My cake pisses me off (no one decorated it!). I wish we spent more on flowers too, but hey we didn’t and I’m ok with that. I wish we were able to and could get another hour tacked on to the reception. 

Was there anything that upset you at the time, that now you couldn’t care less about?? 


No my cake STILL upsets me, but hey it’s been a month. My bouquet, although it didn’t upset me all that much. 

 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

What do you remember? I remember most things something I don’t remember was the music for my processional.  Sad huh but I was too busy looking at DH. 

 I do remember the things that didn’t work the way my little brain had dreamed up the day but nothing too crazy.  Organist didn’t play the lord’s prayer we said it.  The tables had the plain white covers on them I wanted the wood of the table exposed.  I had a DW so didn’t have a chance to check the baker before hand 🙁 Also the DJ wasn’t completely my style.  He wasn’t awful but wasn’t my top DJ of all times either lol.  I love music. 

What was most important to you? I can’t pick one.  Everything 🙂

How expensive was your wedding? 35k without the rings and hm

What do you wish you hadn’t spent the money on? I am ok with the price I paid for things actually wish I would have spent more time and possibly more money on things.

And what do you wish you had  spent the money on? Better table coverings, better dj, and better cake

Was there anything that upset you at the time, that now you couldn’t care less about?? Nope.  Stuff that upset me then still upsets me now.  I hold grudges though probably won’t ever forget.  I think that is a personality thing. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What do you remember? The PERFECT ceremony.  The waterworks haha, I cried, then he cried, then everyone cried.

What was most important to you? Getting legally married! And things going as planned (which it didn’t LOL)

How expensive was your wedding? $15k – $20 for a destination wedding

What do you wish you hadn’t spent the money on? Stupid rental car on the honeymoon. It POURED RAIN and we never got to use it. Wedding related, I regret nothing.

And what do you wish you had spent the money on? Nothing, I think I made very wise choices with our money.

Was there anything that upset you at the time, that now you couldn’t care less about? Many things upset me and I still care about them. But none of it ruined my wedding.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What do you remember? I remember everything but the most lasting memory is how much fun I was having/how happy I was. 

What was most important to you? Band, alcohol & food, venue

How expensive was your wedding? $40-$45K

What do you wish you hadn’t spent the money on? I am happy with all my vendors and their costs but we waited too long on our invites and ended up having to rush order so many things that it cost way more than expected. I also bought various decor items we didn’t end up using. 

And what do you wish you had spent the money on? I didn’t feel there was anything lacking. 

Was there anything that upset you at the time, that now you couldn’t care less about?? The night before the wedding, I was so upset that the forecast had rain but day of I rolled with it and it didn’t bother me at all day of. 

 

 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What do you remember? Well, a lot of it (1 month today!) but a few things stand out. I remember approaching my soon to be husband for our first look pretty well. I remember wandering outside the barn reception area and talking to my family and friends, it was casual and relaxing. I remember a lot of dancing.

What was most important to you? Oh man, I don’t know! The ceremony was what I was looking forward to most, though.

How expensive was your wedding? 15k

What do you wish you hadn’t spent the money on? Honestly, our DJ. I thought he was going to be amazing and he was just ok. It was not expensive, but I wish I had gone the ipod route.

And what do you wish you had spent the money on? Everything else was perfect, so nothing!

Was there anything that upset you at the time, that now you couldn’t care less about?? Actually, no the oposite situation is true for me. On my wedding day, I was so busy enjoying myself and spending time with my friends and family, I barely noticed the handful of people that were missing. Now, looking back, I’m a little hurt at one or two who had planned to come but didn’t show.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What do you remember? Everything! Then again, I just got married a little over a month ago 😛 What I remember most is how happy I was 🙂

What was most important to you? Getting married! I don’t know if there was one specific aspect that was most important. I just wanted to be married. And I wanted everyone to have fun and say it was the best wedding ever haha 😉

How expensive was your wedding? I don’t know the exact final total but it was probably around $18,000 (not counting honeymoon).

What do you wish you hadn’t spent the money on? Honestly, I can’t think of anything. We were very careful with our budget and I think everything we spent money on was money well spent. Okay, fine–I wish I hadn’t spend $3 on flower pins to put in my updo because I ended up forgetting them at my mom’s house and thus didn’t use them…lol.

And what do you wish you had spent the money on? Paper products!! Not because I didn’t like mine. I did them myself (via kits and papers and stuff bought from Michaels and Staples) and I was proud, but good lord, were they a hassle. Wish I would’ve just spent $200 and saved myself a lot of stress. I didn’t even finish the programs…oops. Also, I wish that we had spent more and had a second photographer. I’m sad that I don’t have pics of the guys getting ready, which I didn’t think I would miss, but looking back I do.

Was there anything that upset you at the time, that now you couldn’t care less about?? No, because I was apparently in a trance on my wedding day. A lot of things went wrong and I stayed totally calm (not sure how this happened!). So, no, there was nothing that upset me then. If anything, there are small things that upset me more now lol.

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