Post # 1
About 20 of my gfs are going to our domestic destination wedding location early to do a girls’ wknd style bachelorette party for me. I will give special presents to the planners, but I’d also like to give something little to each of my friends for attending because they mean so much to me and I really appreciate them coming. We’re renting a house and keeping costs low.
I’m thinking of maybe giving each girl a small alcohol or chocolate mini-sampler (some don’t drink). Ppl could drink/eat the gifts at the Bach party or at the wedding (our venue serves only wine & beer due to the area, so we’re trying to give those close to us something a lil stronger if they’d like it).
Do you think it could be okay for me (the bride) to give guests a small gift/favor in these circumstances?
Post # 3
idk why anyone would be offended or anything, but i think it’s kind of unnecessary except for the people that planned it
Post # 4
@Shkragoldfish: I think its a cute idea, and I bet the girls would love it 🙂
Post # 6
For the 2-4 who are planning it, I’m increasing the amt I’m spending on their bridesmaids gifts so they get an extra thing they’d love (either a massage or jewelry etc)
Post # 7
I think it’s cute! I can think of no occasions when I would be offended or upset to receive a mini alcohol! Maybe sunscreen if it’s a sunny location?
ETA: You sound like a super awesome bride. Your girls will totally feel special that you’re thinking of them as people and friends and not manequins!
Post # 8
Everyone is coming from out of town for my party, so I paid for the limo, kind of as a thank you and to lower the expense for everone else. I think its great if you want to give them a little gift and help cut costs
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
I don’t think anyone will turn down the chocolates, but I also wouldn’t expect people to be really blown away by that. It’s a very small gift. If you’re trying to think of a way to make them feel special, I’m not sure that’s the way to go.
Post # 10
@Christy42213: I’m a bit confused. Never said I was trying to blow anybody away with presents- I just wanted to do something nice as a little favor. Spending $10 or so each on all 20 girls doesn’t seem too shabby. All wedding guests are also getting welcome bags and a special personal Msg from my FI and I in addition to an edible wedding favor and a pretty nice (I hope) wedding Reception.
I’d like to keep it to something not too expensive and was more asking if it’s wrong of the bride to do, not if bees think the lil favor will knock the ladies off their feet
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
@Shkragoldfish: “I’d also like to give something little to each of my friends for attending because they mean so much to me and I really appreciate them coming.”
Personally, I wouldn’t interpret a box of chocolates as “I mean a lot to you and you really appreciate me coming.” That is what I meant.
Would I like a box of chocolates? Sure! Is it appropriate for the bride to give gifts at her bachelorette party? I don’t know. I don’t think anyone will care either way. It’s not traditional, but I don’t see a problem with it.
Honestly, just hearing the bride verbally say that it means a lot that I came and she really appreciates it would have a lot more meaning to me than anything else. If you want to do something else, then I’d write that sentiment down and give it to each girl with or without the chocolates.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2014 - Beach
I am exactly in the same situation as you are 🙂 AND im also doing small gifs for the girls who will be there with me before the wedding. It’s cute and i think the girls will appreciate something like that. i say DO IT 🙂