Post # 1
So I have a tough decision to make about my photographer. Here’s the scoop:
FH and I reached out to a friend of friends of ours who is a wedding photographer whose photos we really like to see if she would be interested in shooting our wedding, thinking maybe we would get a sort of friends discount, or at least that her rates would be lower, since she doesn’t work for a big photo company, just for herself. She sent her rates, and the package that we would have wanted from her was like 5k, so we told her thanks but we couldn’t afford her and we thought that was that.
Over the next few days, I research area photographers and find a photographer that I absolutely adore, both as a photographer and a human being. Since my first initial inquiry to her, she has gone over and above to be sweet and helpful, has directed me to several of her favorite wedding blogs, has even offered to let me use vintage accessories from her own belongings to help decorate my wedding. She really seems like she would integrate herself into my wedding day and not just be an outsider. I don’t know if you can tell, but I love this girl, and I was SO psyched at the possibility of hiring her for our wedding. Her services would run us about 3.5K, which we found a little more reasonable for unlimited hours, two shooters, all of our images, an engagement shoot, etc.
Thinking I had it all figured out and all I had to do was sign a contract, I hear from Photographer A last night. Knowing that my FH is a part time wedding DJ, she asked if we would like to work out something of a barter, since she was recently engaged also. Basically my FH would DJ her wedding for free (since DJ services run much lower than photo services) and we would get a discount for our photo package. What I’m thinking though, is how much could she possibly discount us? 2k? Maybe? So would it really be worth it?
On the one hand, I don’t want to turn down A’s generous offer since we are the ones who reached out to her to begin with, and she is a friend on top of it. But on the other hand, I fell in love with B almost immediately. And if A’s package only comes down to around 3K (this is speculation at this point of course), and B is going to cost us 3.5 and we get the warm fuzzies about her, isn’t it just worth it to pay the extra money? I’m so conflicted! What would you do?
Post # 3
Yikes! I would take the pro over your friend. I think I may worry about the quality of our pics from the first gal. You already go the fuzzies and as long as your budget allows, go for it!
Post # 4
If she is really a pro you tell her you have already found another.one and signed a contract but you appreciated the offer. I think a lot of what helps pictures look good is technical ability but you also have to be comfortable in front of the person with the camera so if you like the second person best go with her.
Post # 5
I think you should take out the fact that photographer A is your friend, and look at it simply from a business prospective.
If you pay A 3,000 are you getting everything you wanted with photographer B? Which one do you come out ahead in? Also, is photographer A people friendly? Does she go out of her way to put herself in the middle of your wedding?
Honestly, I would go with B. I would tell A sorry, but you have already booked another photographer [even though you haven’t.] It sounds like the only reason she lowered her prices was for her own benefit, not for yours [which is fine, but kind of crappy too for a friend]. And, with photographer B, you get everything you want AND an extra photographer [which isn’t NEEDED, but you’re going to get alot of brilliant extra photos you weren’t planning on!].
B gives you more bang for your buck.
Post # 6
Take the emotion out of it and look solely at the quality of each candidates photos and choose the best one.
Post # 7
I would tell your friend that you have already booked another photographer. Here’s why. Your friend didn’t tell your FI how much of a discount off of her photography package she was willing to give. Since she didn’t give you a discount based on being friends, I’m guessing she’s planning on just subtracting the cost of your hubby DJ’ing her wedding. You get along with the other photographer really well and (trust me) that’s an important quality on your wedding day.
Post # 8
Just to be clear, photographer A is a professional wedding photographer who just happens to be a friend. Not a close friend but a casual friend. I don’t think it will end up being worth it in the end, and I think I am going to trust my gut and go with B. In one day of exchanging emails she gave me a really positive feeling about what she would do to make sure my wedding day was perfect, and I feel like she will go above and beyond the duties of a photographer to help in any way she can. Just have to get FH buy-in on this decision too.
Post # 9
I have read too many stories on this site about horrors of ‘friendors’. I’d still take the pro even if the friend of a friend is cheaper.
Post # 10
go with the pro! the one thing you do NOT want to jeopardize is your pictures! Its all that you will have left after the day is over with! Good luck! 🙂
Post # 12
Just tell her that since you could not afford her you looked into other options and already have something booked.
Post # 13
I think you for sure should go with B!
Post # 14
I guess it also depends on how important great photos are to you, also!
Post # 15
very important! But they are both wonderful photographers. I want to clarify, the friend is also a professional photographer! I’m sure I will get great photos either way. I just think the overall experience with B would be more enjoyable, and I think I would make a new friend in the process!
Post # 16
Is the first photographer actually your friend – someone who you’ve personally connected with? Or someone whom your friends have used in the past that is a referral? I’m suspecting it’s the latter. I also think you going into it expecting a discount from them was probably the wrong sort of karmic energy.
Personally if both of these two are professionals, and have work you equally love the second photographer is the one you should go with. She seems already very invested in you as a person, and very excited about your wedding. You can easily tell the first photographer that you’re appreciative of the offer and would have jumped on it in the beginning, but that you’ve already signed a contract and paid a retainer. Chalk it up to bad timing and move on.