- 8 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
I feel dumb but I don’t know anything about how to sort this all out.
Okay, I have never had a wedding before. First time around was in a courthouse. In addition, I haven’t ATTENDED a wedding in 14 years and didn’t pay attention really even then.
We are getting married in a little church that we are basically “renting” and bringing our own officiant. It’s a historical church that is part of a museum. Small, simple, think of your typical church out in the country and there you have it.
So, I don’t know how long the aisle is but I doubt it is very long. We don’t have a wedding party per se. My brother might walk me up the aisle, I don’t know. FI and I might just walk up together. Our kids are participating: my son will be the ring bearer and DD will be the flower girl. My older son might be playing a processional song (Elvis’ “I can’t help falling in love with you” on acoustic guitar)… he keeps trying to weasel out because he’s afraid he will screw up.
We are looking at a very small number of guests, so I don’t imagine it taking long for them to be seated…
Okay so here are my issues:
In a small wedding consisting of only family and very close friends, do people just seat themselves?
How many songs should I pick, total? I was planning on the Elvis song by my son as FI and I are walking down the aisle. But wait, don’t I need a song that will last long enough for DD and DS to walk down too (ring bearer and flower girl)? Or two different songs?
I am hoping to have Beethoven / Ode to Joy played on Celtic Harp as a recessional. I have since started REALLY wanting a Ramones song in there, because I am a punk rock girl at heart and always will be and it’d just be “me”. I was thinking “Baby I love you”, but I don’t know where I’d fit this in? And is it fine to just use a cd player for this other music? I have the harpist for maybe 2 songs max and my son for one.
I just don’t know how to figure out any of this especially when the wedding will be in the church in another state, we don’t know for sure how many people will come, and there won’t be any time to rehearse all this because we are going up there the week of the wedding and have a jillion things to do once we are there, since we cannot visit the location until then.
I hope that made some sense. I just don’t know how to plan the “order” of things and what music when and how many and how long and all that. How do I decide the order of people (DS and DD and maybe my brother) going up the aisle, or is there some standard thing/format?