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Hi Bees!

I'm semi-new-ish and have been wanting to ask this question for a bit.

Background: I got diagnosed with the early stages of PCOS (Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome) about a year ago. I recently went in to have another monitory ultrasound done and they said things have only vaguely progressed (yay!) but I do have cysts and the largest is 2 cm. These are not by any means "big," but they do have the ability to grow/change/etc.

Situation: They told me that going back on birth control would possibly help regulate my hormones and keep my cysts "in check." We are not getting married for another year and 3 months, but we do know we'd like to TTC as soon as we're married (due to this infertility issue as well as another). So in my head I'm thinking "Why would I go back on BC for a few months if I'm just going to go back off of it in less than a year?" We are also not actively NTTC (not trying to conceive.)

Basically our philosophy = if it happens before the wedding, we're happy about it because we're worried about having children naturally anyways.

Question: What would you bees do? If you had known fertility complications and will be actively trying within a 2-year range, would you bother going back on bc? Especially if you're not really trying to prevent anything? (TMI Note: He does pull out, but we're not normally using any sort of actual preventative that often)

Sorry so long - I think I just need to know if others would see the situation the same way I do? Or if there is something I am overlooking? Thanks!

Talk to your physician.

He/She can put you on metformin and spirolactin instead of birthcontrol to control your hormones and this will allow you to ovulate normally.

It is highly unlikely that you ovulate on your own right now anyway because the cysts from PCOS are swollen follicles that haven't released an egg into the perineum. So you will want to be medicated to control your hormones.

If you talk with your doctor they will control your hormones with meds other than BC.

Good Luck!

@roxy821: Thanks for responding so quickly! :) I am sort of freaking out.

Yes, we would give up our "dream wedding" to have a baby together. We do feel financially ready, but yes we would make some cuts from the wedding, change how the atmosphere will be, include our possible child in that case, etc. Financially I feel like we are fine. Knowing us, we would drastically cut wedding costs in order to give the baby even more, which I am fine with that affecing the wedding. We'd be married either way, right? :)

They said the hormones from BC will assist in "keeping the cysts in check." I asked (since I have been off BC for 6+ months for the labtests, etc, and just to see how my body works ie how often I have a natural period) if that had anything to do with the development and she said no, that it will progress naturally. So I was a bit confused. Guess I need to do some research on that.

@Future Mrs. Martin: Thanks! I hadn't even thought of that option. That sounds much more like what we are going for - regulating the PCOS while still not trying to prevent anything. I will definitely be talking to be Dr about that instead of BC.

Edit: I do get a period every 2 months naturally; I've used the 6 months off of BC to monitor that and see what my body is naturally doing. It is pretty regularly that I have one every two months, due to one of my ovaries having much more cysts than the other. The one with less cysts I assume is still properly functioning. <-- This contributes to our wanting to get pregnant fairly soon after our wedding.

@Miss OBG: Thanks. I really just needed to hear that spending a year on any sort of hormones will help much more than it will hurt our chances later. It's kind of a tricky balance - knowing you want children, knowing your body is complicating this for you, and I kind of feel like I was jumping at any chance to keep that desire alive.

I will definitely be going back onto something to help control the hormones, though I am leaning more towards the other hormone treatments that @Future Mrs. Martin suggested, because of the things I have heard re: BC and TTC. When I went off BC the first time, it took several months for me to even have a regular period. This contributes to my worries.

@ejs4y8: Yes, we're aware. :) I remember that from undergrad biology. The thing is like I've mentioned before, we aren't really trying to prevent anything, we're just waiting for the wedding to "actively" ttc. 

I do think I will be talking to the Dr more specifically about regulating the hormones in a way that isn't actively trying to prevent pregnancy.

@angela2011bride: Thank you for that perspective. :) We aren't really sure which way we'll decide now, we're going to talk to the Dr in the next few weeks and figure out what is best for us.

Are you TTC or just sort of preparing to TTC like we are?