- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I have read a lot of posts about bad MOHs and my Maid/Matron of Honor is really not at all as bad as the ones I have read about. That being said, I am still having a bit of a hard time with my Maid/Matron of Honor because she is starting a business that is wedding related and I wanted to give her good business since I’m having a huge wedding. I am a currently a student in college planning a wedding and my Fiance and I have planned a long engagement, in fact, there is still nearly a year before the date.
Anyway, I asked for her professional services months ago and she seemed super excited and told me she would take on the job. Her and I have had pretty weak correspondance since we live in different towns but since the wedding’s so far I felt that it would be okay to not be too direct with things, besides since she’s starting a business she should be the one telling me when she needs certain decisions made by right? Out of the blue, I receieved a text from her stating that she could no longer do my invitations due to various reasons and one of them was that she was busy with her new business. Honestly, that makes no sense to me because I am trying to help her business by placing a very large and expensive order to help her out. bothers me the most is that she is now taking offers from other people even though I asked her first. I understand that I am a friend of hers but she should have been more professional.
What bothered me even more was that she made a comment after I sent her a very understanding text as to her decision which was that if I didn’t settle on my colors, “I would be the most hated bride lol.” Not really a lol moment because it’s her way of indirectly saying her own displeasure.
So, my problem is this, I have known my Maid/Matron of Honor for an extremely long amount of time but we are not exactly “true” best friends, I have not officially officially asked her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor but it is assumed that she will be my MOH because we had made a promise to be eachother’s MOHs a long time ago, but there is actually someone who I had truly wanted to ask. I know that it would cause too much drama but to just ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man but I’m wondering if it would be okay to have two MOHs?