Post # 1
Hi ladies. Finally wed, on June 12th. Amazing. but it doesn’t seem to end, all the chores. Now for the thank you notes. The gifts, especially the checks, were excessive and these — All the gifts in my opinion — deserve great big thank yous, you know? And to each person I/we are thanking, I have much I want to say.. about being there for us, yada, yada, yada. So I’m not just rewriting the same two sentences over and over again, believe me. All of which is leading to the big Q here for me today — how much time do I have, really, before it’s just plain not nice??
Post # 3
Thats so nice that you want to write such thoughtful thank yous to everyone! Id do them in batches but I think you probably have 3 months before people will wonder where their thank you is.
Post # 4
Generally about 3 months (Emily Post!) although I’ve heard it said it can be up to a year. Not sure how I’d feel about not getting a thank you for a gift for a year, though.
My mother in law informed me she had hers done in two weeks because she took thank you notes on her honeymoon. Um, no…
Post # 5
I’ve heard the “rule of thumb” is within 6 months of returning from your honeymoon, or something like that. People certainly don’t expect them to be in the mail the day after you come back. I agree that doing them in batches is the best way to tackle the project. Write them during commercials while you’re watching TV maybe. 🙂
Post # 6
Omigod! I almost wish I hadn’t asked! I thought I had about a week, at most two! And I love the etiquette board; it’s been sooooo helpful throughout, but I’m going to pretend I didn’t just ‘hear’ this and put pen to paper this weekend (I’ve actually typed out around 20 so far on line and will copy them by hand onto the cards) with the hope of getting out as many as I can (had around 100 guests). Six months! A year! I kind of like striking while the iron is hot, you know? I mean, feedback is so sweet about our wedding and everyone’s still all aglow… hate for them to think we don’t appreciate it so…
Post # 7
I refuse to take any longer than 2 months post-wedding to get thank you notes out to guests. I just think it starts becoming rude to wait any longer than that (i’m unimpressed to receive thank yous later than that too – they don’t take that long – get them out in a timely fashion).
Post # 8
I think the sooner you get them done the better, but with that said, if you need a bit more time, then don’t worry! You have lots of time to write out a personal note and have them sent before people start to wonder too much about where their thank you is.