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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    I have spent the last 3 days going from place to place and calling the necessary creditors, etc. to get my name changed.

    When I went to the Social Security office they, of course, had to ask me some questions and see my ID to make sure I am who I say I am. One of the questions they asked was the name of my father. That didn't creep me out, but one of the questions they asked me did.

    She asked if I had another name for a father. What???

    You see, I am adopted, so when they asked for the name of my father, I gave them the name of the father that adopted me. Her next question is what creeped me out.

    I have no idea how they got the name of my biological father because I thought that adoptions were closed, so no one should have that information. The only reason I was able to give them a name is because I located my biological father many years ago.

    So, ladies, if you are changing your name, be prepared for some questions that you might not think are normal.

    Personally, I am bothered by this, but there is nothing I can think of to do about this. I really don't like anyone to know more about me than I know about myself.

     
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    sparks    September 10, 2011   IL

    That is bizare.  It would definitely weird me out.

     
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    MrsCoachBtoBee    June 9, 2012   Alabama

    bizarro.

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    Yeah, I found it really strange that they asked that question. I did ask her, though, "what if I didn't know who my biological father was?", and she told me she would have just asked another question. What is also strange is that my biological father has a name that has several different spellings and they had the correct spelling.

     
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    Golden139    August 13, 2011   live in Texas, wedding in Michigan

    Weird...I can definitely see why you would be bothered.

     
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    MrsNeutrino    July 2012  

    Omg that is so creepy! I am planning to go to the ss office next week to change my name. I can't imagine that they would know my fathers name because we never talked and we migrated here. If they do, creepy for sure! So goes big bro

     
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    mrsawesome09    June 5, 2011   Madison, WI

    Wow, that's weird.  The only thing I could think of was that they had access to your birth certificate...is your biological father's name on there?  But yeah, what if you hadn't known you were adopted!? That's a risky little question.

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    Thank you for your comments ladies :-)

    @MrsNeutrino: Yeah, "So goes big bro" :-/

    @mrsawesome09: I have my certified birth cerificate and, no, it doesn't have my biological father listed.

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    That's pretty strange.  I don't remember having to answer any verification questions at SS.  It's sort of creepy that random people have accress to stuff like that!

     
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    I don't think it's really creepy, in a way it's a little cool, because it sounds like they had both dads' names.  If you hadn't had the knowledge about your adoption, you probably would have just thought that it was strange that they didn't immediately list your dad's name or that there might be someone else with a similar name to yours... It would have just been an oddity, but since you knew there actually was a real answer to the question, it just weirded you out! 

     

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