Post # 1
My fiance has some friends who are nice people but just make me a bit uncomfortable. Is it okay for me to explain this to him and ask that he make plans to spend time with them by himself? I have no intention of excluding them from his life or ours, I just don’t want to see them every time that he does. If it matters, they are a couple. It’s not uncommon for me to see my friends while he’s doing something else, but usually I’m just seeing girlfriends (or family), not a couple. I do work nights once or twice a week so it’d be easy enough for him to schedule with them while my time is otherwise occupied. So… is it okay to ditch the double date occasionally AND tell him why, or is it inappropriate to say that you like some of his friends more than others?
Post # 3
I just tell him they aren’t my favorite and to please have a good time!!
Unless we are talking great friends from way back, I just let him enjoy without inconveniencing myself.
Post # 4
I skip out on nights out with my SO’s friends all the time. lol. I like most of them well enough but unless my friends are around too, it ends up me sitting around bored to death listening to them talk about the things that they have in common/guy stuff (you know, the reason they are friends in the first place) that I just don’t get into. Plus I think it’s great for him to have time with just his friends to drink and talk sports and Jeeps and whatever, just like I like to have time to shop and goof off and talk wedding with my friends. As long as you don’t always say no I think it’s perfectly fine, especially if they make you uncomfortable.
Post # 5
I would just be honest with him, but keep in mind that since they’re a couple, maybe he’s worried about being a third wheel?
Post # 6
Of course, you don’t have to hang out with people you don’t want. As long as you aren’t talking smack all the time, being mean, saying he can’t, etc. Then it’s fine.
Post # 7
@Regina Phalange: That’s definitely a concern – were it just guys or some non-couple mix I wouldn’t care so much.
Post # 8
@GrumpyPumpkin: There’s nothing wrong with telling your FI that you don’t want to socialize with the couple. However, it would be a nice gesture on your part to do so every once in awhile, if you think FI would enjoy something like that.
Post # 9
i think it’s ok to tell him how you feel about the couple, and it’s up to him to decide whether he’s gonna be the third wheel or not – maybe he doesn’t feel that way, just let him have a good time then 🙂
Post # 10
There are certain people my SO doesn’t like that I am friends with, and I don’t push him to hang out with them, and vice versa. That’s okay 🙂 Everybody likes different people for different reasons. We can’t like everyone!
Post # 11
depends how good of friends. Be honest with him – i don’t see why you’d have to see them all the time but once in a while – yes. My FI isn’t a fan of some of my friends but he’ll still come once in a while.