- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
This is going to be a long one, girls…
My lovely FI and I are currently planning a May 14th wedding (next year).
We haven’t booked anything major yet that can’t be undone without drama. The venue is his parent’s hay barn, so no cost there. We have our date on hold with our choice photographer for the next 9 days (enough time for us to sign the contract & mail in our deposit)…so no money invested in that yet either. I haven’t even bought a dress yet…
My sister is getting married next month (the 18th!), and so my parents -mainly mom- are under crazy stress right now. My mom is a teacher, so she will not be out for the summer in May. Nor will she have a summer break between my sister’s wedding and my wedding. My parents are excited and happy for us, but my mom is already stressing and worried that there won’t be enough time for her to plan my wedding too. Yeah, her exact words, “I don’t know if I’ll be able to plan your wedding while I’m still in school” hmm, mom, I really don’t think that you will have to plan my wedding. Sure, I need your help, but I don’t want you to have control over it??…I’m getting off track. Sorry.
So my FI and I are getting a feeling that it will be a huge burden on my family to have two weddings so close together. Well this is where the offer comes in…
Last week, FFIL calls FI and tells him that “there has been an offer put on the table.” -creepy right?! Well, FFIL said that SOMEONE in his family has made the offer to pay $5,000 for us to go to Hawaii (or where ever else we wanted to) & elope/have adestination wedding.
His dad wouldn’t tell him who it was, and that he won’t tell who. Now, I don’t know if he won’t tell until we think about it, thinking that it will influence our decision. Or if he won’t tell us ever? He just said that the offer has been made….
How intense is that?! My head is saying “EASY, fun, spontaneous, less stress, get away from here, my parents won’t have to pay for two weddings so close together, it’s kinda sexy” My heart is saying “stay here with the barn, it’ll be adorable, you want your family there, you want his family there, you want all your bridesmaids there, you want your daddy to walk to down the isle.”
Any thoughts?! I keep going back and forth on this..