Ok…this might be weird but is anyone close friends with SO's Ex?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

No, but there’s a big difference when you started dating as teenagers (you were 16 when you started dating and he was 19?). Anytime someone tells me about the boyfriend or girlfriend they had at 16 or 17 (and it ended around that time), I frankly don’t take it too seriously. My husband still has a bunch of pictures from his high school girlfriend in a box, and we’ve looked at them and laughed at them – even the more *affectionate* ones between them. I would not feel that threatened if he were still friends with her.

Later girlfriends, however, were a problem. But, we’re also considerably older and those relationships were serious ones. Part of it’s that those women were also LDR girlfriends, so we’ve never physically met, nor are we likely to do so.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@242beauty:  I am absolutely not in contact with any of his exes…and neither is he. I am quite content with things being that way.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m not but I do have acquaintance that’s been a long term relationship for about five years.  She’s BFF’s with her boyfriend’s ex-wife and at the time he was living with his ex to raise their daughter.  From FB updates I can see they recently had a following out and have moved out of the state.  I assume that it compromised the friendship but I’m not too sure.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Hell would freeze over before that happened and even then it would pretty much be known I wouldn’t be friends with any of FI’s exes.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am friends with my husbands ex girlfriend from college. They broke up 15 years ago and maintained a good friendship. I met her when my husband and I started dating over 7 years ago when we were visiting NYC. She let us stay in her apt since she was mostly living at her boyfriends (now husband) place. She is a really cool person and the four of us have a blast when we hang out once or twice a year. We are hoping to visit them again this year, they met up with us in Chicago last year.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m not friends with any of his ex-girlfriends because there’s no way I could be friends with her knowing that they have seen each other naked (and worse lol). It’s just too close for comfort.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’ve met and got on very well with a couple of his exs but they live to far away to be considered friends.

Strangely two of my exs are reasonably good friends now, they only met because they were both at a party I threw (oh a d they ate both coming to the wedding).

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I continue to be a terrible person.

I really dislike all of his exes simply based on the fact that he liked/had crushes on/loved them at some point!

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I am very good friends with one of his serious ex’s. They lived together about 10 years ago but she is married now and I am about to be married and I have absolutely no worries about them having any feelings for each other. I am still friends with most of my ex’s. I think its a litle immature when people automatically hate their partners ex’s

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m not personally because all his ex’s live 2,100 miles away (and so do mine) 

but my dad is firends kinda with my stepmoms ex…but I guess they have to be for the kids. 

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@242beauty:  i’ve never actually met any of my dh’s exes.  he doesn’t remain friends with them.  i do admire your confidence and attitude to be able to accept that your so did indeed have a past.  good for you.

my sister had 2 children with her then husband.  they divorced and he remarried.  the new wife and my sister were very respectful to each other b/c of the children.  i admired them both for this.  in fact, my sister’s exhusband was killed in a car accident shortly after he remarried and the ladies were there for each other for comfort and support.  his new wife was just 7 months pregnant.  this was 13 years ago and his widow still sees his children on a regular basis even though she really was only a step-mother to them for just a year.  good for her.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Fuq. No.

They all live in Asia. And his high school/college sweetheart was 15 years ago and she seems batshit crazy.

On the flip, I’m not friends with any of my ex’s current girlfriends…or even my exes. Eff that too lol.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@242beauty:  yeah, it would be fine if it was an “innocent” relationship where all they did was kiss or hold hands. But any type of sexual altercations would not be ok with me. Call me insecure, but I would be wondering if he was picturing her naked the whole time haha. I’m sure he feels the same way about me though

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