Post # 1
Any kind of hlep would be great here…I’m going to make this as clear as possible. In my head it is a bit confusing. However I am confident one of you will have the magic answer.
Planning a destination wedding for October 2013 followed by an at home celebration once we return. All of those invited to the destination are also invited to attend the party portion once we get home.
So now what? I wanted to send a save the date/info type email thing that would give folks the country the deets and info to start booking the travel arrangements ie paying their deposit. I want to do this soon to give people enough time to put themselves in the right financial situation.
So then I would like to send out an invite which would include the invite to the destination and also the at home party. They will have a choice here to pick which they will attend of if they will be at both.
So when to send those invites out? Etiquette says 6months prior to date and if they are more so like a gesture of formality is that ok? The invite won’t be the call to action necessarily but more like a final “HERE YA GO” fancy pretty piece of paper….
thoughts and suggestions….??!?!
Post # 3
are you sure you want to be planning the DW as well as the at-home party at the same time? I would think you want to have a little break in between? Then you can send out two separate invites, one for the wedding itself and then a couple months after that the at-home invites?
I have no idea. These are just my thoughts. I had my at-home reception almost six months after my DW.
Post # 4
@strawbs: It won’t be right after the wedding. There will be some down time in between. like 2 or 3 weeks. This was the mans idea, he would like to just get it all done in one shot. Also the at home reception is a cocktail reception. It is more about the party literally….
How did you do your invites for your DW?
Post # 5
@Rehema: yeah my at-home reception was a cocktail reception too 🙂 it was a great party lol
I didn’t do invites for my DW. It was word by mouth only because I had a tiny guest list.
Post # 6
@Rehema: We sent out our destination invites by email with the details and prices for the trip about a year in advance. We then sent out seperate invites for out at home ceremony and will then send a formal invite to those that are confirmed to come on the destination
Post # 7
Here’s how we did it:
We didn’t do any save the dates, only spread the message that we were having a DW through word of mouth, so everyone we were planning to invite knew before the invite came out.
We got married in March 2012. Our invites to our DW were sent out July 2011. Very early, but in order to get the early booking bonus, deposit had to be made by October. So 3 months in advance of the booking bonus.
We then sent our separate invitations for our AHR which was in April. We sent those out in January. Again, a little early but we needed all our RSVPs before we left for the wedding because we only had 6 days from the time we returned from our honeymoon to the AHR.
Hope that helps!
Post # 8
We got a great travel agent who set up packages from all the cities our guests would potentially be coming from. Then we set up a wedding website with all the details and sent out invitations with the wedding website URL 10 months in advance. There were deadlines for the packages our travel agent set up so that really helped with the “oh maybe I’ll come” typees. We took a ‘put your money where your mouth is’ policy and said that we only considered those who have put down a deposit for their trip to have RSVP’d (we heard a lot of DWs have a good deal of problems with guests backing out because they didn’t save/book properly in advance).
ETA: As I said, our travel agent has been amazing and I noticed you’re from Canada too. She’s in Calgary and, even though I haven’t actually met her, she has seriously been the bestest ever! If you want her info, message me.
Post # 9
We sent out save the dates with our wedding website adress on them. We just put all the information about hotels, travel, visa requirements etc on there. We sent STD’s a year prior to the wedding but let everyone know that it was going to be a DW when we got engaged.
Post # 10
This helps a lot. We are a bit behind the mark. Everyone knows it is a DW from the engagement party. So I would hope if they were serious they would have started saving! We were planning to go to Barbados, but the price points were so insane. So we switched to Jamaica. But they put us a bit behind in terms of timing. We wanted to put out our STD’s in October so it would be a year in advanced! So now it is like 11months in advanced. The early booking bonus would give folks only 30days and it is right dead smack in the middle of the holidays….urgh.
Thanks again for the help….Now I feel at ease to know my thinking as pretty normal. lol
Post # 11
We’re getting married in September and just sent our STDs. It was printed with wedding info on front, on the back was a label that stated the dates and locations to ALL of the events as well as our website. We’ll send out formal invites in January. We’ll do simple invitations for each of our other receptions… Lol this all sounds confusing since we’re having so many events.
Post # 12
I plan on diong STDs for those that are invited to the actual DW, with the details and who they need to cotnact to get everything booked. then an actual invite for the DW later, and then the invite to the AHR for every one.
the STD will go out about 12-16 months ahead, just depending. the actual invite will go out 6 months ahead (for the DW), the invite to the AHR willg o out standard timing for wedding invites. so 6-8 weeks ahead. as our AHR will be within a few weeks of returning as well. we are doing cocktails and a dance