- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
Please tell me this is happening with the rest of you!
My first boyfriend from 12 years ago just contacted me on FB. Now, I know things are all dramatic and tragic when you’re 16, but there was always some kind of weird pull between us. The circumstances surrounding our meeting were bizarre to say the least (we were born in the same hospital, on the same day, in a completely different state, and ended up living 10 mintues down the road from each other and working in the same place. It’s really weird. I broke up with him after 4 mo. when I was dealing with some personal trauma and he kept pressuring me for sex, so there was no closure for like 9 years b/c he moved away a month later.) 5 years ago he found me on FB and we’ve hung out a few times (only once in the last 4 years that I’ve been dating FI, and it was a holiday party at a mutual friend’s house), but he kinda turned into a burnout and lives a completely different lifestyle than I do… plus, he’s been with his gf for at least 2 years now (and I felt really bad for her after he told me all this) Apparently, he’s still holding out hope that someday we’ll “shag and get all this tension over with”. Um, what tension? He knows I”m getting married in 19 days.
The conversation was weird and awkward… like reliving things I’ve gotten over YEARS ago. He still thinks we’re destined or something, and I have no interested in him at all, and I’m very clear about that! I would expect this from a more recent ex, but Jesus, it was 12 friggin years ago!
Why do guys do shit like this right before we’re about to get married? I already said yes to my FI, the rest is just formality at this point, so no, you don’t have chance. Ugh.