(Closed) Old high school guy friend on my mind!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
23636 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

My instinct is that he just needs space.  It is really difficult to watch someone you’ve been pining over since high school get married.  I think you should let him call the shots, as hard as that may be for you.

Post # 4
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Leave this poor guy alone. It’s clear that he wants to be more than friends with you and all you’re doing is giving him hope. The more you contact him, the more he’s going to think that there’s eventually going to be a chance for you guys. Let him get on with his life and find someone. Delete his number from your phone and stop contacting him. I don’t know how your Fiance knows all of this and is still ok with it. I’d be livid if it were me.

Post # 5
707 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

So do you want to be with him or do you want to be with your FI? I think you need to figure that out and if you want to be with your Fiance, you need to leave your HS friend alone and let him move on. He obviously wants to be more than friends with you and by you contacting him, even if it is just occasionally, you’re leading him on. As tough as it is to lose a friend, you’re hurting him. If you really care about him, you’ll let him go.

Post # 6
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I second 2PeasinaPod.  You chose Fiance over this guy and you need to stop stringing him along.  Cut off contact.  Don’t contact him in 6 months when you miss him.

Post # 7
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think you need to delete his number. I have that feeling every once in a while about my first love but I never reach out because it wont do any good. I always know we will end back where we started. It natural to wonder how someone is doing. But I think you need to just wonder and leave it at that. I love my FH and I know I  don’t want to be with anyone else its just my curious mind wondering the What if… You are only human 🙂

Post # 8
3771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

Yeah.. you may want him in your life, but you want him as a friend and he wants something more.  I would not initiate contact again; he needs space to think about what he wants from you.  If he believes he can and is willing to have just a friendship with you, he will contact you again.  If not, it’s not fair for you to keep him in your life while he suffers from unrequited love that could prevent him from finding his own happiness.

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