Post # 1
So my FI and I designed our own STDs in Photoshop because he used to be a graphic designer. We used the “design your own” magnets on Minted and they turned out sooo cute. We added our personal website at the bottom corner so it didn’t interfere with the design.
A few days after we sent them out, my FMIL started receiving calls from her family asking about hotel accomodations. I said “well, they could just go to the website, the info & the links are all there…” She said they were all complaining they could not read anything on there so they just called. Then she said they were just going to find their own hotels, because they couldn’t be bothered to go to the website to click the links!! I spent hours on the phone getting those hotel blocks!
I went back to see the magnet to double check that it wasn’t THAT small, and it was fine! About the same size as an adult novel. I was so annoyed! I returned with “Ok, well that’s what reading glasses are for, you know they’re all old and they all have them. they could just freaking put them on to read the freaking thing…” (I was really annoyed, but don’t worry…we have that kind of relationship, I wasn’t being a brat even though it kinda sounds like it written out…) She just laughed.
We spent hours designing it and I was so furious. We could have just called people and told them “Hey. Save this date, we’re getting married on it. And go to expedia and find a cheap hotel, while your at it. I hear the Holiday Inn Express is nice.” for heavens sake!
I know it’s not a big deal because not everyone we invited was complaining. I know I am taking it kind of personal. I know I sounded kind of bratty. I know but I am still annoyed.
Post # 2
Ha, this happened to us too. To the point that my mom insisted we print separate accomodations cards to be sent with the invitations because she kept getting asked where the hotels were, even though the STDs said “hotel info is on the website”. It was super annoying, but I chose not to fight that particular battle. Us silly millenials, I guess, thinking everyone can figure out a website! We ended up getting 50 accomodations postcards from Vistaprint for $5, so that may be an option for you too 🙂
Post # 3
Elderly folks are quite often unfamiliar with technology and it’s unreasonable to expect they will all of a sudden figure out how to locate a URL on a magnet and use that to guide them to a website. Heck, one of my sisters is not elderly at all– she’s only 30— but she’s not computer savvy and if it isn’t Facebook, she can’t figure it out. You have to accept that guests may not be as used to technology as you are, and make it easy for them to find your wedding information in a format that is actually relevant and useful to them. I speak fluent Spanish but most of my guests don’t; it would be silly of me to send invites out in Spanish. Technology is a language of its own and just remember not everyone is fluent.
Post # 4
Older people just aren’t good with computers. You can’t be mad at them for that. I admit I have no patience but I expect it from them.
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
This is the kind of thing people should not go running to the bride to tell. Your FMIL should have just looked up the hotels and told these people where to book their rooms. Why tell you and make you feel bad about it? Sort of thoughtless, if you ask me. 🙁
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2014 - Restaurant
It’s just a STD, right? Most STDs I’ve recieved didn’t have a lot of info on it anyways, just the date and MAYBE the website if it’s up. If they are that concerned they can just wait until the invitations come out. All the complaining would annoy me too.
Post # 7
A lot of ppl don’t go to wedding websites unfortunately. We included accommodations and travel printed info w our save the dates (in addition to having it on the website) for this reason and BC we had a domestic destination wedding in a pricey area.
Also- if couples really want to give out info through their website, the site should be emailed out so ppl can just click and it should be listed prominently on materials (listing site in bottom corner might’ve signaled that it wasn’t important). You can also email out hotel reminders- our guests really appreciated that before our blocks closed or to let them know that a few rooms had opened up.
Sorry you went to all that trouble and ppl aren’t even using it.
Post # 8
texaslemon: I have never received a save the date with hotel info or any other info on it, really. Our save the date will be a picture, the words “save the date” with the date and the city and state. We will be sending more information with the wedding invitations.
If this is going to be a continued problem, inform your FMIL of your hotel block, what she should tell the guests, and leave it at that. When they get the invitation, hopefully they bother to read the accommodation card.
Post # 9
prahajess: +1000. my mom did this kind of thing too and it always irritated me- soandso says she can’t come because the spa at the venue hotel is too expensive and even tho you have blocks at cheaper hotels, she only wants to come if she can afford to stay at main hotel and live it up. Or- soandso did not receive her invite yet. Me-okay well it’s 5 mos before the wedding and I only sent the invite 2 days ago, mom. Please stop surveying guests and telling me who has not received an invite yet!
Post # 10
Wow, you’re right, you do sound bratty. Instead of making all the snide comments, you could have just passed along the information about the hotel blocks. If your older guests aren’t into the internet, hotels have phones, and you very easily could have given a phone number and told them to ask for the “bride/groom block” for whatever date.
People seldomly go to wedding websites, whether they’re tech-savvy or not. Instead of taking things personally and irrationally freaking out, just figure out an easy answer like, “We blocked at the Marriott on Main Street, their number is X.”
Post # 11
I understand your frustration. I had able-bodied, degree-holding, YOUNG adults behaving as though they could not work a website. It wasn’t that they couldn’t, it’s just that…why go to the trouble when you (and 50 other people) could just call me and have me hold your hand. Smh.
Post # 12
This is making me nervous as we’re about to send out our STD and it just had a website on it. We were thinking about printing something on the back that says “for hotels, etc” visit the website.
My mom felt like it would look tacky to slip a piece of paper in the envelope with it.
Post # 13
Overjoyed: Yes! Some of them are 50+,yes…but some of them are degreed in the last 10 years, young professional people!
MrsMeowton: really?? I can’t remember the last time I received an STD without an address. funny how it’s different everywhere you go!! 🙂
And I am also peeved because my FI designed the website himself, wrote the code and everything. So people not going to it just because they were too lazy annoyed him too.
prahajess: Shkragoldfish: thanks! I have been super stressed and everyone knows to tread lightly these days haha! It was like a small miracle to get the STDs out the door in the first place, she was just adding fuel to fire…
Post # 14
Oder guests have difficulty reading smaller print and aren’t computer savvy. Go figure!
You should be grateful that they care enough to call and ask and want to reserve the hotel rooms and come to your wedding.
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
texaslemon: Why not tell them that that info will be coming with the invitations when they are sent? Older people are quite funny about STDs lol. A lot of mine thought that they were the actual invitations! But … They were just STDs. STDs are new so people don’t really know how they work and to be fair a lot of older people are still not necessarily tech savvy. I know a few people who just do not use the internet at all, even! Anyways, don’t worry so much people will always find something to complain about 😉