Post # 1
So we started getting out RSVPs back, and I have had two complaints already about the time that we are having dinner. Apparently 6:00 is not early enough for the old fogees coming to my wedding. What the heck am I gonna do with them? I think I am gonna throw a granola bar at them and call it good.
The problem is that my FI heard this, and he is a people pleaser so he immediately tried to change the time to 5:00 pm. “We will announce it at the wedding ceremony, that the time changed” I said “no that is tacky!!”
I convinced him to not to change the time, and drop the idea alltogether.
lol. Anyone else hear complaints about the time of things? How do you shut them up? I am sure I have not heard the last of it.
Post # 3
ha, i swear my mom has dinner at 4pm while watching “her shows”
Post # 4
Weird to hear complaints about the time unless you have a huge gap from ceremony to reception of multiple hours… (like wedding at one and reception at six) In that case, I would say that the complaints are legit. But only because it cause a hardship on guests. Ideally, the wedding reception should be close enough that the guest aren’t stuck waiting too long.
Post # 5
OMG, this just made me LOL! I’m so sorry you have to deal with stupid things such as this…what a pain! I think 6:00 is the PERFECT time to have dinner…and if the old fogees can’t handle that, then I hope they eat before or pack a snack for themselves! They’re certainly old enough to plan ahead and they have the life experience to know that it’s not respectful to complain over something as petty as that. Good luck to you! haha.
Post # 6
Haha how silly! It is not unusual to have a reception/dinner at that time. (Not to mention, in NY having dinner at 9 or 10 pm isn’t even considered outrageous!) I would say don’t stress about it because most guests won’t think twice about it. Anyone who has issues with it will just have to eat a snack beforehand! Sheesh, are people helpless or what? Lol
Post # 7
my grandpa eats dinner at 3-3:30 haha.
Post # 8
Whhaaaaatt? Our dinner will be around the same time as yours though we are having cocktail hour at 5pm after the ceremony.
You’re hilarious, just don’t aim for their face when throwing granola bars!
Post # 9
@bigcitybee: I’m from Jersey and we always ate at 9pm. When I moved to the midwest and everyone was eating at 5 it drove me nuts. Especially because the on campus cafe closed at 8, before I was hungry.
@Jamie42003: Our reception will have dinner at 7ish, which the venue chose. Are you having a cocktail hour? Then the starving guests can start snacking at 5pm.
Post # 10
Ceremony at 2, and reception at 6 pm. Yeah I know four hours is a lot, bet there are plenty of places to hang out in the meantime. There are two bars within twenty feet of our reception site. Things to do in the town we are having the reception at(it’s a tourist town) I would of liked to have the ceremony later but they have mass at the chruch at 5 and we have to be out of there by then.
I think out solution is to have a cocktail hour staring @ 4 with some moderate snacks/apps. i won’t be there for this part cause we will be taking pics, but i think it could work.
I think i will add this info to the programs.
Post # 11
I totally understand. I’m getting complaints about things being too early. We’re doing getting ready pictures at 2, first look at 3, and ceremony at 5. I’ve heard complaints from almost all the girls that they can’t believe they have to do hair and makeup from 9-12 and that their hair will be flat by the ceremony. And then complaints that the reception ends at 11 (that’s the latest the venue would let us) but we’re having an after party, geez.
Post # 12
Wow. I have never heard of people complaining to the couple about their choices. If they don’t like it, they can stay home. Don’t change your plans to suit people who can’t be pleased no matter what. Age is irrelevant, especially since there are plenty of older folks who are happy to be invited and don’t care what time anything is, and they have plenty of tact not to complain about anything. But you never hear about any polite guests.
Post # 13
@eloping: Ha! I like how you wrote “her shows.” Sometimes I joke around and say I’m watching “my programs.” 🙂
Post # 14
Well if your copping it with a 5.00pm dinner were going to really cop it with our 6.30 one!!!
Post # 15
Yeah, you do need something in between, cos the olds will need something to do that doesn’t involve too much walking. I can hardly see them sitting at a bar for 4 hours.
It’s a very long time for elderly. And kids for that matter.
So yes, I’d say you do need something for people to do, unless they’re already very close to home or their hotels, so they can at least go home and have something to eat or a nap.