Post # 1
I may be a paranoid freak, but I have my first dress shopping appointment on Monday. I am 37, this will be my second marriage, and I don’t exactly have my 20 year old body anymore either. (but I’m working on that..haha) Did any of you feel self concious about dress shopping not being such a young bride? Or feel judged by the shop attendents?
Or was it smooth sailing?
Post # 3
I don’t think you have anything to worry about! Bridal shops see ladies of all vintages, shapes and sizes! You will have a fantastic time so long as you set aside that anxiety! I didn’t fit into half the sample sizes, but they made it work and I found my perfect dress…you will too! 🙂
Post # 4
I went to two different stores. I ended up owning my age, telling them “I’m 35. I don’t want to look frumpy, matronly, or old, but I also don’t want to look like a 24 year od princess bride.” None of them gave me any stink eye for being older, nor did they treat me like I was an anomaly.
They told me I don’t look anywhere near my age. They also asked about veils, colors, and so on. I think it’s getting a bit more common for women to marry a bit later in life, so you should be okay. And if they give you a hard time, take your business elsewhere and don’t even give them a second thought.
Post # 5
Thank you for the encouragement! 🙂 I have three appts on Monday, and two on Wednesday. Here’s to going in with a good attitude, and hoping to find the perfect dress. 🙂
Post # 6
My dress shopping experience wasn’t like what I thought. But not because of my age. I am 31, 32 in September but look and act much younger LOL… I also still have my same 20 something body but feel much younger and look better. I have 3 kids too (wierd, but not bragging I promise).
I didn’t enjoy dress shopping like I thought I would though. I went to one bridal salon and I was so over the whole experience by the time I tried on my 3rd dress. I was ready to be done and only tried on 5. I am so glad I found my dress soon after that (the 6th dress I saw and tried on). I did not want to try on any more. LOL.
Post # 7
@Crazyhair: I wouldn’t worry about it – I’m 49 (don’t really look it anyway) but there is really nothing to feel self conscious about. They just want to make their sales.
Post # 8
I was in my mid-40s when I married for the first time. Everyone seemed to be quite happy for me that I had finally found “the one” (DH, that is, not the dress! LOL) 🙂
My biggest issue with dress shopping as much older bride was two-fold: a) I no longer had my 20something or even my 30something figure, and I was, by that time, plus sized, so I wasn’t able to try on certain styles of dresses and didn’t look good in any princess ballgowns, and b) I really WANTED a princess ballgown, even at my age, because I had been waiting so long to finally have my dream wedding.
For me, it really wasn’t a matter of trying on tons of different styles and liking myself in so many and then narrowing down the selection and falling in love with the perfect dress. It was much more that nothing I tried on worked or I just totally didn’t like the dresses the associate at one store kept putting me in, so, when I found “THE” dress, it was THE dress simply because the back was absolutely beautiful, I looked decent in the dress, and I finally felt like a bride and began crying. I was by myself, called a bridesmaid to come meet me at the shop, made her try it on (since she’s tiny and fit into the sample size), and ordered it on the spot. I ordered it so quickly, because I was afraid that the only gown that I thought I could actually wear may be discontinued before I would come back to order it. Interestingly, I found out later, that it WAS discontinued about two weeks after I ordered it. Good thing I listened to my gut on that one, lol!
I hope you have a fantastic experience with your dress search!
Post # 9
I saw brides of all ages, sizes, colors, and shapes. It was pretty awesome, actually. 🙂
Post # 10
I was a 47-year old first time bride and had a lot of dress shopping anxiety. I want to seven stores in all – was treated very kindly and respectfully everywhere I went, but in all honesty most dresses made me feel like Bette Davis in ‘Whatever Happened to Baby Jane’. My advice is – stay cheerful, keep your sense of humor, and just keep going – every dress you try on will add to your knowledge base of what you want, and when the right one comes along, yay! I loved my dress *so much* but it took time & persistence! Good luck, your dress is waiting for you!
Post # 11
i am in my 40’s and i was an encore bride. i hated my last dress (i had it made, not a real wedding dress) so i really wanted a nice wedding dress this time. i was really worried that i would not look good in them or that the samples wouldn’t fit me, etc, etc.
i had more fun than i thought i would. all of the dresses fit me fine and i loved trying them on. i was so surprised that so many of them looked as good as they did. i went to a couple of stores and the girls there were so sweet to me.
i know exactly how you are feeling and i felt the same way but after the first, second dress, you will be just fine.
have fun. can’t wait to see the winner.
Post # 12
I was 32 when dress shopping and no longer a 00! It was a great experience because I was surrounded by positive people who love and support me. Don’t bring the haters!
My biggest suggestion though is wear some shapewear. I wore this to try on dresses. that way I was not worried about the salesgirl seeing me in my undies and all my unflattering bits with it. It looks like a mini dress! The straps come off too.
Post # 13
@mypinkshoes: If you read the boards, most of the younger brides aren’t size 0 and 2’s either. They have the same body issues as older brides. Anyway (at least at Alfred Angelo’s), I found that most of the sample sizes were sized 6-8 (and they were not small 6-8s either – more like street size).
Post # 14
dont worry about that, just have fun, just wear some shapewear to get curvier if you like
Post # 15
I had good and bad experiences but it wasn’t because of age. I knew exactly what I wanted and that was the problem. Consultants wanted me to try all these dresses just to see. I hated them all, trains & massive amounts of fabrics wrapped around was not for me. I wanted to look sophisticated but I dind’t want to hide my sex appeal. I wasn’t getting married in a church with elderly family there, so I wanted something that consultants could not imagine a bride would wear.
I think the best thing is to accept your body the way it is and get a dress that you want, not what the consultants think you should wear 😉
Post # 16
Well, since I wrote this post, I have been to about 8 (yes 8) dress shops…and every time has been a blast! (except maybe DB, but that was because the attendant was a flake) I have tried on a billion dresses, and have actually loved every minute of it. I just wore some shape wear, and off I went. My problem now is that so many dresses looked so great on, it’s been really hard making a decision! 🙂