- 3 years ago
- Wedding: February 2015 - Bethesda Academy Whitefield Chapel & Brockington Hall
Let me start by saying that I love my older brother. He is a good person, but sometimes he irritates the CRAP out of me, and when he isnt the center of attention he finds a way to place the focus back on himself.
I asked my brother to be a groomsman in my wedding. My fiance and I have decided that the groomsmen will wear navy blue suits instead of tuxedos, our wedding has a vintage feel and we are getting married in a church that was built in 1823, and modern tuxedos just wouldnt go. My is a bigger gentleman, and I know getting a suit in his size wont be cheap, and I havent been ae to find the suit we want to rent in his size, so I offered to pay for it, and all I asked was that he go and get fitted. He was supposed to go today with our mom (they live on the East Coast, I live on yhe West Coast) but today he sends me this laundry list email of his requirements for the suit that HE WANTS. He doesnt want a regular tie, he wants an ascot. He isnt sure that the color we want is something that will be useful to him after the wedding… just all these ludacris requests that have nothing to do with me and JC’s wedding. At the end of the email he also listed three of HIS FRIENDS he would like invited to the wedding. These are not my friends. I have never met them. I wanted to say, “please feel free to wear whatever you like and hang out with your three friends at home.”
But alas I was a nice sister and didnt say that. As far ad the suit goes i said “just go get measured and we will figure out the details later.” I did say no to the friends. I reminded him that weddings are expensive ( I was a bridesaid in his wedding 2 years ago) and I said theres no room in our budget for extra guests because we are already having to cut some of our own friends to make do.
Do you think I made a mistake by not just outright telling him to shove it up his arse about the suit? Im not buying him a suit so he can have his dream suit, Im buying him a suit so that he is wearing what Id like him to be wearing at my wedding. Ugh. Older brothers. Sometimes you wanna kick them in the shins.