Older Married Sister/MOH wreaking havoc on wedding

posted 2 weeks ago in Family
Post # 2
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It seems the best way to deal with her is to have nothing to do with her. Or, just don’t involve her with anything to do with the wedding.

She sounds very demanding and narcissistic, sorry.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Fuuuuck that! Your sister sounds like a spoiled narcissistic brat. I know you said you love her…but why? Seriously, nothing you mentioned in this post sounded good. Honestly, I’d tell her that you’re done. You’re done trying to please her. You’re done trying not to step on her toes. You’re done tip-toing around her drama and craziness. You’re done apologizing. If she wants to talk and apologize for her behavior, she knows where to find you. Until then: you’re done. 

Post # 6
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74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Something that works for us is to not be alone with the person with NPD. They are usually worse when there are no witnesses around.

Good luck.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Take back the power to be happy with your life. Leave her out of any activities you can and make a conscious decision to not let her push your buttons when you cannot avoid her presence.

You didn’t say how long it is until your wedding. If it is close, I wouldn’t have a major confrontation right before the wedding. After the wedding, I would tell her how her bahavior makes you feel and that you are no longer going to put up with her behavior and would be cutting off contact with her.

Asking her why she behaves the way she does is a waste te of time. She either has no insight and needs therapy, or she knows exactly why she behaves the way she does and isn’t about to change.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Sorry but your sister is a freaking bitchhhh. She is married? Who.. who would marry someone like that.

Dont include her in a single wedding detail starting now, dont talk to her, dont involve her and honestly if she doesnt want to be part of wedding .. better for you

Post # 9
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75 posts
Worker bee

There are many ways to express ur love for ur sister. But if she’s going to continuously create unnecessary problems and wanting the limelight on her, I think it’s better to not have her involved directly in your wedding (in this case ur team bride).

have her help out with other things that won’t directly affect you and your mood on your wedding. 

Its YOUR wedding, you shouldn’t allow her or anyone make you feel less than happy.

xx

Post # 10
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688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

It sounds like she’s jealous of you. She’s 41, settled, with kids and her younger sister is now getting to do all the “fun” wedding stuff. 

I’d just distance myself from her.

Post # 11
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4438 posts
Honey bee


Sorry, but seriously , I wish people would stop with this schoolgirlish , simplistic ‘she’s jealous of you’ stuff. 41 is not old, two kids is an achievement . ‘Fun wedding’ stuff is entirely overrated .  

The woman  sounds a  complete arsehole and has been one for years , this is just her latest manifestation.  All OP can do really , given  the family dymanic around  her sister, is to keep a cool and  pleasant-seeming  distance and not engage her in wedding  type activites or anything else that sets her sister off.  .  

Post # 12
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672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Your sister is an awful human being, there is no excuse for her behavior. 

Distance yourself. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Tell her to fuck off. Repeatedly. 

Post # 15
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330 posts
Helper bee

But probably better to do what elderbee said 

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