Post # 1
hi there everyone! i am just new in this forum,, and i just want to ask ,, anyone here experience falling inlove with a man 8 years her junior….
just want to ask for advice,, coz i was accidentally inlove with a man , 8 years younger than me….and i’m worried coz i felt like i terribly feels wrong….and maybe this is not right…. i felt like i will crashed his young status of life…. please any advice….
thank you everybody….god bless….:D
Post # 3
I think it depends on what the actual age difference is. Is he a legal adult? Is he mature enough that you have things in common and share the same values and goals – both short and long term? If so, then I don’t see a big problem with it.
Post # 4
As long as you’re both adults, it’s all fine! I’m older than my FI, sister is older than her DH, it’s not a big deal when you’re both mature adults.
Post # 5
One of my friends married someone 20 years older than himself when he was in his early 20’s. he went through a lot of judgement but my opinoon is if I was in that situation I would want people to be happy for me 🙂 so I supported them. They now have a gorgeous baby
Post # 6
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Its fine as long as he is legal. My FI is a few years younger than me. And we met approximately 4 years ago. I had slight issues at first but he was mature for his age and no one in my family knew he was younger until I told them.
Post # 7
As long as he is legal, it’s fine if he feels the same way.
Post # 8
thank you for spending your time to answered me back,, i really do appreciate it….
to be honest ,, i was 8 years older than my man,, i felt it was really wrong but everytime i was about talk to him,,he reminded me,, that whoever he wants to be with , its his life and its no one elses business…. it’s so nice to hear those kind words….
but how about his family ?? i’m so worried what will happen in time,, but i do so love him so much…. until now i dont know what to do 🙁
Post # 9
@ stephee…. thank you for inspiring me,, but i want to ask permission from you….
may i know how old you are from your FI : coz i am 8 years older than my man,, it’s quite naive for me to think that he can deal with our age gap but i was totally inlove with him …. its so hard ….
Post # 10
@ charlie : oh my god !! god is really great !! god bless your friend and his family…
as you have said ,, your friend got married to a girl 20 years older than him,,,, i can tell he is a real , gentle family man….
age is just a number, others might say,, but i admire couples who have the capacity to defeat the ‘ age gap issues ‘….
i am 8 years older than my man — it’s quite hard, i have been through letting down and berated myself because of his age,, but i cant deny that i love him….
Post # 11
@slc201329: oh my good lord ! you are so lucky to have your FI,, I AM SO HAPPY FOR Y@OU,, but you know what, my problem is, i am 8 years older than him,, and its hard for me to accept that sooner or later his family will be against our relationship …. and sometimes i do not know if he can love me and accept me as i grows old, change my physical and outer beauty as i age….its scares me to death everytime i think of it…. if you won’t mind,, may i know how older are you from your man?? you are so blessed ,, as he is by having you …..
@Hyperventilate: he is 22 years of age but he is so mature for his age ,, i was 30 years of age now,, i’m so ashamed to tell you this,, i know it’s naive to think that he was so young for me,, i tried to avoid , escape from how i feel about him,, he told me,, he is not a kid anymore…. am i wrong for loving him??
@Mrs.LemonDrop: thank you so much — this helps a lot– i can say we are happy everytime we talked , we share bad and good moments together , he is such a simple man , he loves life…. and i love him so much…. what scares me the most ,, is the time that he will change for me as i age…. i feel horrible thinking of this….
Post # 12
As long as you are both responsible adults it doesn’t matter what the age difference is or who is older.
I am 3 years older than my FI and couldn’t care less…why would I?
As well we have a couple that we are friends with she is 20 years older than he is. They absolutely love and adore each other.
Post # 13
@anna_met: How old are you?
Post # 14
hi there …. thank you for grasping and sharing your stories…. you and your friend have a nice and amazing journey of life with your FI…. i hope i could have this kind of life as well in time…. i love my MAN SO MUCH,, i don’t know why i fell inlove with him knowing that he is younger than me,, but i cant help it,, i was inlove…. thank you so much,, but i was still scared thinking that maybe he will change for me as i age….:(:(
Post # 15
@anna_met: it all depends on your maturity level (and if he is legal age). if the two of you are compatible, that’s all that matters.
i am 6 years older than my dh and he looks a lot younger than his age at times. luckily, i don’t look my age either. i don’t really care what other people think.
how old are you, op? how does your bf feel about the age difference?
Post # 16
@anna_met: my sister is 40 and is with a guy who is 31! they are expecting their first child together 🙂
but yes – as long as it’s legal. haha.